Welcome and Orientation

Pinned discussions

Meet your community champions!

replies: 10

Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

HELP..Am I posting in the right section?

replies: 10

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

All discussions

Sorted by:

Start a discussion

Lonely

replies: 3

My life isn't all that different in isolation and I am blessed to still have my job and my beautiful children here with me. And yet I feel profoundly lonely and just do sad. I feel like I'll never climb out. I'm scared of never being ok. I'm just in ... View more

hi

replies: 3

hi there im jay. i just made my acount most of the time i will be here to try and help other people the best i can. i strugle with a lot of differen't things in my day to day life. i want to make the world a safer place for people like me who have to hide who they are from the world in fear of being disregarded or abandoned. i get it i know what it feels like to be the out cast the one who just doesn't fit in, the one that is almost there but their just not. yeah thats me the kid whos just kinda there. so nice to meet you all even though im not really meeting any of you haha. (fyi i will be using this acount to rant about my life due to a lack of support from friends)

Hello

replies: 2

Hi Everyone, Just felt the need to join for some support with anxiety and depression. Haven’t seen a GP but this was my first step to get better and get back to my old happy self. Thank you

Thought I trial this space to see if for me

replies: 1

I been using Daybreak App (for people who quiting alcohol yet I been sober for 2 years) for personal and looking to replace it. Looking for App or site that I can find comfort when needed to. And I dont want to use social media plus the group on those are usually not very safe for mindfulness even though that the intention. Thought I try here. Trial run. See how it goes. But open to recommendations too. Im back on script. I have noticed an improvement. Im a lot carmer. But sleeping! Motivation has also drop. Going with flow but I want to find energy as I have projects to do but procastinating. Tonight Im a little confused. Im trying not to take it wrong way or misinterpret. Seen a specialist and he got angry after telling him what another department said (was he accusing me/dont believe me or was he angry about how the other department communicated?). When I got home got two emails from different people. One was suggesting/misunderstanding my correspondence about an order so responded to try and clarify reason for my enquiry. And the other I could not feel but an open attack or sweet response to my concern about something. They say it goes in three! At the moment feel like finding a heavy rock. Meanwhile I am absolutely loving the isolation and sign me up for expedition to Mars! I always was a loner with no friends and no immediate close family anyway (I do care for dad though who lives elsewhere). I started avoiding social media a while ago and the news and using less technology. I plan to refuce further. I went for two decades totally by myself so find it weird Im having trouble now. Although before I did have issues but I know how it was, and maybe wasnt so bad. thats my novel tonight.

Deflayed, Depressed and Annoyed

replies: 1

I don't usually do these cause they make me feel uncomfortable but I guess I have to try at some stage. I don't know how to begin this... back in January I've decided that I'm 29 years old I want to move on in my life so I decided to ask my boss for Management training to help move forward so I can move out of my parents and start growing and moving forward, but that came to a sudden stop when my boss told me that "I wasn't ready" I mean why not just say "no" cause how does he know without giving me ago first, I pretty much felt shut down to ask why which I regret, so after that I took two weeks off cause I had them planned and come back to find out some else with less experience had been given the training instead, I felt even worse and found it unfair. Anyway I started seeking other empoyment anywhere that could help me earn enough to move forward in my life, but its been nothing but disspoinments one after the other, some companies say Im unsuccessful for an interview or I don't hear from them at all, I had one Interview a week ago and all went well but they told me again that "I wasn't ready" thats twice now I was told that so it really hit me hard like no one wants me to be successful, I have no kids, I'm not married, I work 5 days a week, always available, I Work hard (I barely talk at work cause I'm concentrating on the job at hand) and I'm willing to learn. I know it will be hard now for with COVID-19 going on but still doesn't mean I can't try to seek employment. Being in isolation doesn't help as I barely see anyone and pretty much on my own, I do text my friends when I can but its not the same as talking to them in person, and nearly all my friends have kids and are married so I try not to bother them as they have their life to look out for, I have more time to think now since I am on my own and the more I think the more I remember past memories and which has put me in a depression state. I usally play video games or watch movies but all this emotions or depression has taken my motivation level down on a new low level and I just want to curl up and do nothing, I also lost my appetite with food which I'm pretty much forcing myself to eat.

howdoifixus

replies: 4

A few weeks ago I organised somewhere to live for a while to give our relationship some hope, my Husband didn't want me to go, then a week later we had the worst fight we've ever had and 2 days ago he told that he loves but is no longer in love with me and wants to break up.I suggested some ideas and he's adamant there's no hope. I just want to die. I love him so much. I don't want to live without him.

Feeling totally isolated

replies: 1

I’ve spent more than 90% of this year stuck at home. Recovering from surgery in late December, I only made it into work two days before lockdown. My partner gets to go to work every day and interact with others, while my only contact with the outside world is when I have medical follow up. He gets frustrated with me but at least he gets a change of scenery each day. I can’t go out other times as I don’t have a great immune system. When he snaps about stupid things I just want to curl up and sleep and never wake up. i can’t sleep at night, yet I can’t get up in the morning. I eat, work, sleep, cry - rinse and repeat. Each day it’s that little bit harder to push myself to keep going. I’m just so tired.

Feeling done

replies: 5

Hi. I guess I am just feeling done. I’m new. I’m alone. And I’m done with being alone. I spend so much time being a good friend to others, and I don’t do it for anything back, but for some reason find it really hard to tell people when I myself and struggling. and this week I am. I have really crashed tnight. I had to leave work and I just keep crying. I feel useless at everything. And like no one ever really loves me. snd I keep thinking someone will notice without me telling them, cause I am the type they always notices when people are hurting, but no one cares. Cause I am just kind of not of worth I think. I just feel shit. At everything. sorry if this is all garbled.

Lost and confused

replies: 8

Hi all, I am new here, unsure where to start, I have been through a lot but in the last 6 months I guess I have been feeling more lost than usual. I don't have a passion for anything and seem to just be plodding along in life instead of living. In Feb I lost my first pregnancy at only 6 weeks and hubby and I are still quite devastated. I am not even sure how to move passed that, I have lost all hope at getting pregnant again which is silly but after years of trying and other hurdles to jump, I was so happy to have it all over so quickly. My job no longer excites me and I wonder every day why I am here. With Covid19, it feels impossible to grow and have opportunities at other career pathways without some form of study which scares me. I honestly feel like I have given up on me, I am gaining weight and don't care about my appearance anymore. exactly how do I pull myself out of this whole and move towards a happier healthier life that is full of exciting and endless opportunity but still brings growth, development and stability? There are so many positives in my life, and I know that I have a lot of support but I just feel flat all the time. I don't know what the next step is.

New to forums and my sleep challenges

replies: 1

Being my first post here, I don't quite know what to expect or how to write down everything in my racing head right now. But, I'll start with the basics; I am suffering with Generalised Anxiety and depression. I've been working with my psychologist since November and have had some great improvements since then. Having said that, my most recent session was my toughest so far - it was like any normal session and we had some time to go through some of my original material. When looking at triggers and what was on the list, we found that some were now more relevant than others. When it came to the part of the cycle about behaviours, the top one was sleep/lack of sleep. Even after 6 months, sleep is still a problem. I sleep way too much or not enough, and even when I do sleep it is broken and rough. If I have a good nights sleep, I still wake up feeling foggy and tired no matter what. She asked how long it had been like that, and when I really thought about it, I realised the sleep issue has been around for 5+ years. This shocked me. When pondering it more, I noticed that the same event pops into my head. I was happy and don't remember sleep problems prior to the event. I spoke about it, and explained the event and didn't realise the tears had started. Tonight, I write this at almost 4am because I can't sleep. I have work in a matter of hours and I know I need to sleep but all my normal methods don't seem to help - my mind is racing too much for anything to help. So - in closing, Hello to everyone, I don't know how active I will be or if forums will help me but I thought I'd give it a try. -Dragongirl

Meet your community champions! replies: 10

HELP..Am I posting in the right section? replies: 10

Lonely replies: 3

hi replies: 3

Hello replies: 2

Thought I trial this space to see if for me replies: 1

Deflayed, Depressed and Annoyed replies: 1

howdoifixus replies: 4

Feeling totally isolated replies: 1

Feeling done replies: 5

Lost and confused replies: 8

New to forums and my sleep challenges replies: 1