Loss of teenager son

[shaz74]

Hi, just wondering if there is anyone else going through the loss of a son. My perfectly healthy 17 year old son was taken so suddenly by a tumour and died three weeks later. I’m having a hard time coming to terms with this as he was my youngest son and had his whole future ahead of him. It’s been nearly 5 weeks since he past but I just feel numb and angry. He should be still here living his life. 😢

[sbella02]

Shaz74,

I'm so, so sorry to hear about your son's passing. I'm in such shock reading your post, I can't even imagine the pain and heartbreak you're going through. I have no doubt that there are others on the forums who have been through similar situations and can offer some specific advice, but I'd just like to extend my words of support and condolences for your loss.

Have you been talking with your other loved ones about your loss? It may help to confide in people who know both you and him, and can give you their support, love, and help in whatever capacity you may require. I know that when we lost my grandpa, something that helped me a lot was the abundance of family support. 

If you feel like you'd benefit from some professional advice, having a chat to a GP, therapist, or psychologist can be a helpful means of receiving support too.

There's no easy way to deal with grief, and some days will be better or lower than others. Grieve in the way that feels most right and natural to you. Loss is never easy, particularly so unexpected and for somebody so young. 

I'm sorry for your loss again. I extend all my love and condolences to you and your family during this time. Be kind and patient with yourself, you deserve the chance to grieve in your own time and space.

SB x

[geoff]

Hello Shaz, to lose your son must be a horrifying experience, and to have to go through any of this must be heartbreaking, I am so terribly sorry and there must be so many questions you don't have any answers for, which does make it much harder for you.

You have our total support behind you.

Geoff.

Life Member.

[Luci_Lu]

Oh Shaz74 I am so sorry for your loss.  As a mother of 3 sons I cannot begin to imagine how you must be feeling and to be honest, I wouldn't want to. I think you are so brave writing that post and being so honest with how you are feeling. There is nothing anyone can say which will lessen your grief and loss. You are simply allowed to feel everything that you feel and be angry at the injustice of it all. Life is so hard and so much happens we cannot simply fathom why! I hope you have a good network of support around you as you process what has happened and find the strength some how to keep stepping forwards. 

I am new to this forum and not sure if rules apply but considering the nature of the support available, I'm pretty sure you would be ok with using it as a space to speak openly and honestly with how you are feeling. It can be hard to be open with loved ones as they too are caught in their own grief. We can't change it, or make it better, but we can be here for you. There are also a lot of grief supports like counselling out there which you may also find as a good outlet. My thoughts are with you all.