Loneliness

[Jaynie57]

Hi , feeling really down today. Thinking about how I don't seem to be getting anywhere.

I have 3 Sister's, who are all well off. Have their own, lovely homes . No Mortgages.

I was the one who Cared for, our Mum and Dad .And was there with them when they Passed away.

I don't have much money to be able to do the things, I'd like to do .

And have told my Sister's. And my Children .

But they all have their own lives . And don't really have time for me .

We all seem to be separated . I don't make friends easily.

For the last , 5 years .  I have not wanted to live anymore .

I know I should get out and do other things . But I just can't get motivated.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Jaynie57,  Welcome to the forums and thank you for your bravery and openness in sharing here. It’s a really good place to have come to hear from others who understand what you’re going through. We can hear how difficult it has been lately, we’re so sorry that’s been going on.  It sounds like you’ve taken some really good steps in letting your children know. It sounds like it would be a great time to update the GP on how you’re going, especially since you’ve been having thoughts about suicide.   We’d also really recommend calling the Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. The counsellors there are super kind and supportive, they’re understanding and can be good to talk to right in the midst of these feelings, or at any moment so that you can work out your next steps in getting more support together with them on the phone. You can also reach them via webchat 24/7.  If you’re feeling suicidal or are having thoughts about harming yourself, it's important that you take immediate steps to keep safe. If you feel unable to keep yourself from acting on your thoughts about suicide or self-harm this is an emergency, and you need to call 000 (triple zero).   It also sounds like the Beyond Now suicide safety planning app may be a helpful resource to you. You can read about how it works and where to download it here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/beyondnow-suicide-safety-planning . You can even call Lifeline (131114) and compete it together with one of their counsellors over the phone  We hope that you find our forums to be a safe and supportive space to talk through your thoughts and feelings. Our community is here for you, and we’re sure they’ll spot your post soon enough and have some kind words and understanding for you.   Kind regards,  Sophie M 

[Jaynie57]

Hi Sophie ,thank you for your reply. I did a post a while ago , about how I thought Friends line. Would be a place ,to actually, get in touch by phone.

I think talking to others, who are going through the same things. Would be very helpful .

Of course , it was not approved. I know, there would be problems , with safety reasons. But it would help a lot of people .

[geoff]

Hello Jaynie, the fact that you were the person who looked after your parents and not your sisiters just indicates what type of person you are, a caring and definitely loving person who loved your parents.

You compare this with your three sister's who are all well off, but none were kind enough to assist you, just shows what type of people they are, so I don't believe any of them are going to help you in any financial way, but really someone like you means so much more in life, although at the moment you are finding it all difficult to cope with.

Trying to make yourself motivated is not easy, especially when you are comparing yourself to your sisters because they are at another level than what you are, and your care factor means so much in life and what you are able to accomplish and perhaps not what your sister's can do.

At the moment they don't want a great deal to do with you, but you never know their situation may change at any time, so they can't be guaranteed to remain in their position.

Take your position as slowly as you want and again, don't compare yourself to your sisters, they live a different life which may mean they are under more pressure, but don't tell anyone.

You don't have to conquer the world, just take it slowly.

Geoff.

Life Member.