Info & support needed

[Jackik]

Our 23 yr old son was sentenced to prison y/day. It has been going thru courts since he was arrested on 13/02/2019. We are scared, confused, worried. Waiting to hear from lawyer as to which prison they are sending him. He has been diagnosed with high functioning autism >savant. Can some one please offer support, guidance to myself & my husband?

[Tay100]

Hi Jackik

We are sorry to hear of your distress about your situation and your son's situation. What you feel is valid, and posting here is a great way to acknowledge your feelings. This is a place to seek general support and find connections in a non-judgemental community. We can direct you to parts of the forum that may provide you with insight and information from those with similar experiences. You can also use this thread to tell us more (whatever you feel like sharing) and we can provide a listening ear. For example, what are some small things that have helped you and your husband cope emotionally during this hard time? Any small act of self-compassion is a great place to start.

Let us know how you are travelling, if you like.

Tay100

[Jackik]

Hello Tay100, Thank you so much for replying. We are barely coping, waited all day y/day to hear from lawyer but still no further info as to where our son is being held. I'm so worried & scared for him - is he getting food to eat, is he warm enough? My son will not ask for anything in case he gets in further trouble. During the year & bit we waited for him to be sentenced he has been under strict conditions to report every day to local police, curfew from 6am till 6pm each day, he has been living with us in the family home. My husband & I will support our son thru all of this & his future life, we have no one to support my husband & myself - hubby on reduced work days & I work as AIN in age care. Tears won't stop, we feel like we are being punished.Thanks to all who read, listen & offer support to myself & husband.

[mocha delight]

Hi jackik I’m so sorry to hear what you, your husband and son are going through and if you ever need to talk I’m here for you ok

[Jackik]

Thank you for offering your support to us. As yet we have still not heard as to where he is. Its hard to have to continue on with our daily lives for benefit of our own health, family, friends etc. Our world has crumbled, we are going thru motions of life & its only day 4. Not knowing how he is, if he is warm, safe, causes more anguish for us.

[mocha delight]

Hi jackik no need to thank me so I won’t accept it 😉😂 and that’s what we are all here for to give support to each other as well as also receive it in return 🤗

[Ggrand]

Hello Jackik,

I was very saddened when I read your story and what’s happening in you and your sons lives...

I could never imagine the devastation you are feel and the anguish of not knowing where he has been sent to...I think that is very unfair for you and your husband...He is your son that you love and care for and you have that right to know where he is and if he is safe..

I wish I knew a way that you could find out...Keep asking the lawyers and other official that attended the courts...I hope so much that they will let you know soon...at least that he is safe and well....

Jackit..Please if you need help or someone to talk to ..can you please give the Beyond Blue 24/7 phone number a ring and speak to the trained councillors 1300224636..They are very understanding and you can talk things through with them...

Sitting with you dear Jackik, if you need to talk, I will try my best to support you the best I can..

My care and kindest thoughts

Grandy...

[Tay100]

Hi Jackik,

Thanks for your response- we appreciate you opening up to us further and sharing those details. We know it can be hard to think about them sometimes. You two and your son are going through a rough time, there is no denying. Hopefully, the dialogue here has provided you with some solidarity. From what you have said, it sounds like you want clarity and assurance more than anything, especially in relation to your son's wellbeing. Is there any advocacy service or a hotline you can call? Can a case manager put you in touch with someone? Perhaps they can give you the detailed answers you seek.

In the meantime, know that we feel for you. You say you can't get on with daily life, that's very understandable. Please try and self-care as much as you can. That can include things like eating well, communicating with your husband and chatting here amongst people who won't judge you and seek to understand and support.

Keep us updated if you like,

Tay100

[Nameless1]

Hi tay100

I am not sure if you still check this thread. I am trying to find support too. I have felt the same . My son started remand the same time your son was sentenced and have struggled to get information at times too especially at the beginning when we had no experience with this at all. you never stop worrying!! Another thread I found was also abandoned a year ago and I would like to find one that is current with parents with young adults in prison, to receive and give support

thanks

Nameless1,