Hi from me.

[plodalong]

Reposting this here as it might be more appropriate. My first post. Stuff going on at the moment for me. Not happy 😞

Just really feel the need to put this down today. There is a story in the papers about a lady who claims she has been mistreated at her work - for a ladies fitness wear brand. It has "brought up some stuff for me". I think I have suffered a lot of unfair treatment in my workplace. returned to work after a break to have kids, and took what I could get basically. People will gladly treat you like a lower class person if your job is "below" theirs. Unfair 😞 it has got *really* bad at times. My boss steals from the office. She has lied about me to the big boss - told her I had walked out three times and it wasn't true! They actually docked my pay and then reinstated it. Other stuff has gone on too. Just yesterday someone left a spreadsheet out with everyone's salary on it. Far out!! Also I was harassed by someone who left, when I tried to bring it up, they said put it in writing and don't shrug your shoulders. I shrugged my shoulders because I couldn't believe how I was being treated. What did I do to deserve this? What is it with some people in the workplace? I also have a really bad domestic violence situation going on to put it mildly - ex-hubby had mental health issues, and work has been supportive, but I get the feeling they hold that against me.."oh well she's got some issues in her life, lets just leave her where she is and not promote her- she's a bit "emotional" with all that stuff going on." Needless to say I have suffered anxiety from all this, everything from spots in front of my eyes, hair falling out, throwing up, losing weight, immense sadness and despair. Not fair. I do try to see the positives and to stay positive. But sometimes it is the feeling..will this ever get better? you know. thanks for reading.

[Croix]

Dear Plodalong~

Welcome and thank you for your post - I'm afraid I don't know where your other 2 are, so I'll just treat this one as the first.

You've set out a fair number of things that have not gone well, however I'd be concerned about your mental welfare. You do say:

Needless to say I have suffered anxiety from all this, everything from
spots in front of my eyes, hair falling out, throwing up, losing weight,
immense sadness and despair.

This does not sound good at all. If it was me I'd go to my GP, booking a long consultation, and be checked out for anxiety and depression as well as a proper physical checkup. I find it a help to write everything down first so I give a clear picture. I share the paper with the doctor.

Having the strength to deal with the things you have on your plate depends on you being in a fit state.

You said your ex-husband had mental health issues, is he still on the scene and the cause of the domestic violence you mentioned at the moment? I'm sorry but I'm not sure what you are saying there.

Having a boss that steals and lies about you is a most difficult situation, as is being harassed.

Please post again and say more about yourself

Croix

[BballJ]

Hi plodalong,

Firstly, welcome to the forums.

Wow, that doesn't sound like a great workplace - is there any option to leave and find a new job, no job is worth causing you this much stress and self doubt, doesn't sound like a health environment for anyone to be in, especially someone who has stuff going on in their personal life, I use work as an escape from my anxiety, I actually told my boss and he was so supportive and it's helped heaps but I can respect that your situation is different and you don't have that so my first though is can you get a different job?

Have you seen a GP about what you are going through?

I have seen you already commenting on other people's post so your input is greatly appreciated and helping other people helped my mental health huge so please comment where you can, your advice will be much appreciated.

My best for you,

Jay

[BballJ]

Hi plodalong,

Sorry to hear about your husband.. it is tough being a single parent, I understand that, I am glad to read you are going to look for a new job, that should help ease some of the stress I think. I like the tip from your intensive care nurse, it makes a lot of sense and mental health can be controlled with those things. I feel you have so much support to offer people as well so I hope you stick around the forums and give your advice to people who are also struggling, I personally find helping others helps my mental health big time.

My best,

Jay

[Croix]

Dear Plodalong~

Thanks for coming back and saying more - makes it a lot clearer. I'm also please our replies helped - though I know its just words.

One thing I don't think you mentioned was if you have any family or anyone else to give you any support. Trying to juggle kids, work and the psychologist is a very big ask.

I did notice you mentioned anger - good! I have no idea if this is medically the correct thing but I've found anger to be of great help. I'll give you a couple examples - may not be anything you can relate to - but shows anger has power.

When invalided out of the police I was devastated at the loss of job, vocation, identity, society of others in the job. The whole idea of 'me' was mostly gone. Anger helped. I was furious at the way my working conditions had - at least from my point of view - cynically exploited me and then abandoned me. This really helped. I would not give up (well partly true anyway).

Another quite different thing - I remarried after the death of my wife of 25 years. My new wife was a widow whose husband had died of lung cancer. Like many I smoked most heavily, had from a kid when I thought it was cool and adult.

Although my new wife never said a word I could see a look of pain whenever I had a smoke. I gave up - never been able to before. Anger at Peter Stuyvesant, i.e. the advert in the cinema that got me smoking helped me refuse temptation. Won't start again now.

So maybe you can harness it a little, then again maybe it's just a moment's interesting read of Croix's past.

Either way you have my best wishes and hopes.

Please keep posting,

Croix