I have recently been gaslighting by someone I considered to be my own daughter, I have been in her life for 20 yrs. Things have been a little off for about 18mths but recently she asked to visit & stay in my home with my partner who also felt close to her. She bought her 16 year old son who has been like our grandson also. They stayed for 2 days but mainly stayed engaged with their phones and mucking around with other like 2 teenagers she is 37.The night before they were to leave she rang her husband but they both went into another room to talk which was out of character. She came back out and said she would be leaving at 5.30am the next morning which again was out of character normally she would leave around 10am, when I asked why so early we were told she had to go home and do washing (it was a public holiday). We went to bed said good night to them and nothing more was said. We woke at 7am the next morning and they had left, no note, no message on messenger, just gone we didn't even hear the car leave & we are not heavy sleepers. When I confronted her about it and how it made us both feel (gutted & bewildered) she turned it around to being our fault for not making an effort to get up to see them off & that she had made a lot of noise that should have woken us up but we just didn't want to say goodbye. She even told us to "go f#$k ourselves when I wouldn't accept her excuses and telling her how hurt we both were with her actions. We have now both been blocked on social media. We are both now in a spiral of anxiety, questioning ourselves, no confidence and so rattled. How do you get through something like this, we don't understand why we were treated like this by 2 people that we have always been so supportive of 😢
