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What were your red flags and green flags when finding a therapist?

romantic_thi3f
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi everyone,

I have an appointment with my therapist soon and I was thinking about how hard it has been to really find someone that I can connect with, and I thought it might be a cool discussion to have - especially since it can be hard finding a therapist in the first place, let alone one you like- and if it's someones first time, we're not always sure what to expect!

Some of my red flags from older therapists have been telling me that things (abuse) was all my fault, telling me either I don't need therapy or I should be in therapy for a long time and cancelling and rescheduling all the time.

Some of the green flags for me have been letting me share how I feel about therapy, talking about our relationship without being scared by it, feeling validated and feeling safe.

I think I'd known that I'd found my (long-term) therapist in the first session because I felt really comfortable and safe with her, although sometimes it can take a little while.

What about you? Have you had any red flags or green flags you want to share?

rt

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Rupes79
Community Member

This is an interesting thread and have some questions of my own around this if I may throw them out there for consideration?

I started seeing a psychologist in February of this year to deal with some past issues and depression.

The problem is 5 months later I am feeling worse than where I started. Not in a good place and regretting even opening up about things. Not sure if it’s me or her but it’s not working at all.

LJpd81
Community Member

I'm sorry to hear that. Do you think another psychologist would be better suited for you? Wouldn't be easy changing though.

Rupes79
Community Member
I honestly have no idea LJ and yeah the thought of starting again doesn’t really appeal. I’m at a stage where I need to return to my GP for another referral and not sure whether I bother.

LJpd81
Community Member
Big hugs for you tonight