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Trying to find willpower.

CrashCoyote
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

My PTSD has been the gift that keeps on giving. It gave me obesity from not having the mental attitude to exercise. It gave me alcoholism to self medicate the pain and have some brief periods of being numb. Now I am fifty and tired of being a slave to the disease and the symptoms. Now obesity helps me cop out whenever I start regular exercise and get joint or back pain from it. Alcohol abstinence seems like a no brainer, but I still drink. Maybe not every day but at least a few days a week.

I desperately want to stop comfort eating. I definitely want to stop drinking ANY alcohol at all. I'd love to find the joy in exercise that so many people seem to get. I know I have to make the changes, I've tried and failed many times before. Where can I find the will to make the good decisions? Why is it so hard? Any tips? Please?

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CrashCoyote
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Tanzi,

I think you'd be surprised how many people admire it when someone says they aren't drinking.

I was a cop for thirty years (heavy drinking culture back in the day) and I remember the early 80's when RBT was still new and arresting people for drink driving was seen as un-Australian. Now society recognises the damage drink driving does (even though we have a whole generation born after RBT was introduced that still don't get the message and still do it) and it is frowned upon. People are quite prepared to stop total strangers driving from parties these days if they think they're drunk, so don't underestimate the way society sees the demon drink and the efforts of people to be responsible.

Oh, and fat? I'm 125kg and am trying to address that now. Ironically, one of the main reasons I abstain is that I know booze is high in carbs and metabolises as sugar. Worse than a Kit Kat!

Anyway, I hope you can harness hubbies support. I'm hoping your marriage won't be added to the list of those destroyed by booze. Are you able to tell him you are on here? Show him some threads? Maybe it will have him re-think his views about depression and anxiety?

Keep posting!

Kind regards, John.

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

dear Tanzi, there are a couple of different pills that can make the desire for drinking non existent, and even if you do decide to drink then there will no buzz effect.

I was also a cupboard drinker when I was in depression for a couple of reasons, first was because if my sons found it they would tip it down the sink, and secondly every time I had a drink I was yelled at, so living on a property I could hide it in the shed.

I did take this medication to stop me from drinking only as a last resort or for family purposes, but I wasn't prepared to give up, I needed the alcohol because of my depression, so basically they will only work if and when you want to stop, other wise it's a waste of time.

Back in those days it was expensive to but but work cover paid for them so cost was not a burden.

As John has mentioned my marriage was destroyed mainly by the alcohol but also the depression didn't help.

I know can drink socially, so how can I do this because most people with an alcohol problem can't drink it at all, because one sip and then they're started again, well I talked myself into believing that yes I knew I was going to drink, but I knew that I couldn't drink before a certain time, so I had to wait for this time, and to start with the time was early, but everyday I told myself to leave it for another 30 min's, and slowly the time was extended until the afternoon.

I knew of a chap who had to drink a slab of beer everyday, but one night he and his wife had to go a function and when they got home late about 1am he still had to drink this slab of beer, he is no longer married.

Interesting post so please get back to us. L Geoff. x

Tanzi
Community Member

I would love to be able to have a drink ot 2 at dinner or socially but I've been told in no uncertain terms to ever drink again even though my liver function isn't too bad ( the top of the ok scale ).

I have to go to a place called the Bridge programme to talk about options ie 8 weeks therapy staying in house, 8 weeks 9-5 or 2 days a week councelling. I promised my Husband I would do this but it feels like a step backwards, but I will go and see what they have to say.

Ultimately i'd love to go back to how I used to drink, just a couple and wouldn't thhink about doing it at home, but there's no way my Husband will agree to even trying it now cooz we did but I hadn't received any real counselling I just believed I could but I went back with a bang.

Sorry I think I have hijacked a post. I think I have to start my own.

I'm new but it helps knowing that I'm not a nuffy.