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Going into hospital for TMS - how do i tell my friends and family?

Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi, I'm really really unsure about it, but my psychiatrist is recommending that I be admitted into a mental health hospital in a couple of weeks and undertake 14 days of inpatient TMS therapy. I have no idea what I'm getting myself into. I know I need to do something to feel more happy from my chronic depression. How do I even have this conversation with my family, friends, or even work, about needing to go into a mental health hospital? I feel really embarrassed about it. I'm not the sort of person who wants to talk about my mental health struggles. Should I talk about it though? I'm really confused with what to do in this situation.

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Valued Contributor

Hi josh88


I'm not sure if it will help to change the perception you have of yourself, so that it makes it a bit easier to explain things to others. While some may accuse me of playing with words, I've found that with mental health challenges it's so incredibly important to do just that, especially when it comes to how we define our self.


The perception: I am not simply my brain, my brain with all it's neurons and electrical currents is a part of me. I am not simply my chemistry, my chemistry is a part of me. I am not my beliefs and perceptions, they are a part of who I am, unless I change them in favour of other beliefs and perceptions. My body's energy systems, such as my vascular system, muscular system, endocrine system etc also go toward making up the whole of who I am. If you're a soulful person (not everyone is), you could throw some soulful element into that too. So, when explaining to people what parts of you need attention, you could consider saying 'It's gotten to the point where I need to do something about the way my brain's behaving, based on it making my life so incredibly challenging. There's a therapy that's designed to help, called TMS'. Having done your research, you can go on to explain how TMS works. A little out there but you could even phrase it as 'I'm taking my brain for TMS therapy, so that it stops behaving in such a depressing way. I've been told I need to keep it at this particular place for 2 weeks straight, for treatment and observation. Unfortunately, we can't be separated. I gotta go along with it'. That's one way to look at it.


If you're not sure about the TMS therapy, maybe this is something you could discuss with members of your family and/or friendship circle. I've found it pays to be surrounded by open minded wonderful people. What I mean by this is when I find myself in the presence of people who love to wonder, it becomes about brainstorming for ideas, wondering about whether any of those things will make some difference. Some ideas may be inside the square and some may be outside of it. Either way, it pays to wonder. Personally, I'm a gal who'd struggle horribly if I didn't have a group of wonderful people in my life who are enthusiastic participants when it comes to getting to the bottom of why I feel the way I do at times, especially when it comes to managing depression or depressing factors in my life.


Unless you've got a good relationship with your boss, your reason for leave is your business. If you require a medical certificate, mental health practitioners are aware of people's need to not reveal the reasons for sick leave on a certificate (mental health reasons).