Too much on my plate.

[FeelingLikeTheresNoHope]

Hello, I'm a highschool student from Australia and my boyfriend whom i love very much has depression, autism, D.A.M.P, ADHD, & anxiety. He's usually pretty low-key but with the term ending its been unbearable and I just want to help him when he's upset it makes me upset naturally.

So he's fine sometimes but then he has these major breakdowns later in the day where he feels like everybody hates him and he might just kill himself and he cant talk to his mum about it because she doesn't know how to respond properly, he really needs help but we don't know what to do he's just all of a sudden stuck in a really long depression where its affecting everything. I love him but its literally ruining both of our lives right now and I'm worried his depression is going to push him over the edge.

And i know that its not my problem and i shouldn't take his issues on so much but I'm one of those people that cant help it, I just want to help people the best i can but i feel like it's beyond my control now.

I tried to structure this okay I'm sorry if i ramble and i don't know what I'm expecting back from this i just wanted to put this out there.

[Aaronsis]

Hi FeelingLikeTheresNoHope

I am so very glad that you have reached out and come to chat here. While we are not professionals we can give you some support and some advice. Firstly I would like to say that if you feel like he is in extreme danger please do not hesitate to call an ambulance. If you can get him to put a call in to Kids Help Line that would also be so very good, they are on 1800 55 1800. They would also be really good for you to chat to too. While he is your boyfriend and you care so very much about him, you cannot fix him and nor is it your role to. I know that might be hard to hear but he has to reach out for some support just like you have.

These support lines are run by professionals who can give him some help and some tools to get through this really tough time. You both sound like you have a lot on your plate and it really is so very wonderful of you to care for him, I am hoping you can perhaps show him some of the support information as Kids Help Line has a website too...this would be a great start.

I am not sure how he would feel about seeing a doctor but this would also be something to consider as well. Once again though, this has to be his choice to make and he has to do this for his own wellbeing.

I am so very glad you have reached out here and I wish I could give you a really big hug.

Please come back and let me know what you think or even if you just want to chat some more. We are here for you.

Hugs

AS

[FeelingLikeTheresNoHope]

I cried while reading this thank you so much :,)

He just keeps distancing himself from me and its breaking my heart but I'm sure we will both work it out he I just don't know what to do he's just not himself right now.

[Aaronsis]

Hi FeelingLikeTheresNoHope

I am so happy that you found my words helpful to you, we are here anytime to chat or to just get stuff off your chest and to get a hug and some comfort. Please take care of you too while you try to support your boyfriend, and I cant stress enough to you that he really has to be the one to reach out, it is kind of what I like to align with weight loss, no one can do it for you.

You are so wonderful to be supporting him and being there for him, I think putting the information out where he can find it easily and having these conversations is the most you can do, along side from talking to him and letting him know you care.

Just make sure you get some support and some care too.

Hugs to you FeelingLikeTheresNoHope, you are a wonderful human.

AS