struggling with special needs children

[Matchy69]

Does anyone else have children with special needs.I am struggling with mine.My youngest cant use a toilet when their at the age they should be.I am getting tired of changing them,does that make me a bad parent?The constant hyperepisodes are taking their strain especially that i am going through other personal stuff in my life

[Matchy69]

Hi all I am dealing with a lot in my life at the moment.The most recent thing is my daughter who is pregnant made an attempt after going into deep depression after she split with her husband.Their is a lot to that story.I have been trying to help her the best I can.I tried getting her to see her doctor and get a referral or even ring the Lifeline number or beyondblue.It is really hard seeing my 26 y.o struggling so much and I just feel so helpless.I just tell her everyday I love her and am here for her and will listen and never judge her.

[Guest_1643]

Hi Mark

so sorry to hear that

i believe your words will make a world of difference to her

26 is a hard age, i also had a SA at this time and went to the ED
i think its great that u give her space to talk.... and know that she is safe and loved

i was screamed at and told i was stupid for my attempt, and disgusting. giving her strength to know she is safe and okay sounds lik it could be healing and helpful for her. hope ur okay.

[Matchy69]

Hi sleepy thankyou for your kind words.I know how the hospital can treat you.I have been abused by my nurse for crying in hospital in the mental care ward.Some staff are in the wrong profession.

I try to be there for them all and never judge them.My daughter just had a nasty text from her grandfather calling her stupid.She needs love and support not abuse.

My youngest daughter went to the doctor's today as she is still suffering from stomach pains.She is going to get both scopes done to see if they can find anything.It really is debilitating for her.She has her school formal next thursday which she is excited about.

I was at the local show grounds today watching my son do his ball games which all the schools from the district attend.

Take care,

Mark.

[Aaronsis]

Hi Mark

It is so wonderful to see you here and I have been thinking so much of you.

I am so sorry to read that things have been so tough for you lately, you sure have had a stack of things on your plate.

I hope that your daughter is finding things easier with her pregnancy and that she has reached out for some support, that would be so very frightening for you and also for her too.

I was also really saddened to read that she got a nasty text from her grandfather, that is just not necessary to be speaking to people like that and I am so sorry she received that, how awful.

How wonderful for A that she is able to go to her school formal and that she is excited about that. I hope that her pains in the stomach can be resolved soon and free her up from that worry. I hope you all have a wonderful night at her formal.

It is so wonderful to hear from you Mark and I hope today is a great day for you.

Hugs as always

Sarah xx

[Matchy69]

Hi Sarah thanks for your kind words.Wasnt sure if I should come back on here or not.A break is definately needed sometimes from here.

My daughter has been suffering from these stomach pains for a few years now.We have been back and forth to the doctor's with this but no real answers.It is a real worry for us.Looks like the school formal will go ahead here but you can never be totally certain with the way covid is.

I have been trying to keep busy and started working on my new motorbike project and not to far from putting my shed up.

Take care,

Mark.

[Matchy69]

Sarah did your cat ever come home?My daughter's catfish disappeared out of the fishtank.I think one of the other fish might have eaten it.

[quirkywords]

Mark

I am sorry you are coping with so much. When our children hurt we hurt too.

I Echo Sarah's words and feelings.

I know many many people here follow your story and have been wondering how you were going.

I can relate to crying in hospital, when my mum had dmenetia and no one was helping her, I broke down and a nurse told me I was upsetting everyone on the ward which made me feel worse. Luckily a studnet hurse got me a social worker who didnt really help but she did listen.

I hope you find someone to listen and help.

[Matchy69]

Thanks quirky for your kind words.I didn't really know if people read my post or not.Sometimes writing down something helps even if no one responds to it.

I have been going in and out of hospital since a young age for various medical problems and their is some amazing hospital workers out there but always seem to be odd one with no compassion.I wonder what made these people like that.

I spoke to my pregnet daughter last night she said she was feeling better and seemed more happier then she had been.I know it will get tough again for her and the pregnancy is making her really tired especially with her still working in disability care.

I am not sure when my youngest will get her colonoscopy and endo done.It might be a bit of a wait.I know I had to wait ages to get mine done.

My son was very excited about the ball games and talked non stop about them when he got home.

Tske care,

Mark.

[ecomama]

Dearest Matchy

WE'VE MISSED YOU SO MUCH!!!!

Thankyou for coming back, the forums are not the same without you 😞

You've made my whole week coming back in, even for one post! Maybe my whole year lol.. hugs.

So you'll be a grandad (again?). Pregnancy can be rough on some, it's not fair really. I hope she feels better soon.

I hope your other daughter gets in soon for her endo and colonoscopy. Even moreso I hope she has good results and a workable prognosis.

Love always
EMxxxx

[Matchy69]

Hi Em I am glad I made your day😀.I thought I could sneak back on here quietly.

Yes one of the twins is pregnant and really is struggling with her mental health and now does not want the baby.A lot has happen in her life in the last six months a lot of it bad.I am trying be there for her and give her the love and support she needs.

I would like some answers for my daughter stomach pains.If really worries me that they haven't come up with any real answers so hoping the next lot of test will show something just to give us some answers.

Take care,

Mark.