Hello Dilemma, I remember writing last week to a woman on here in a very simialr situation to you. She went into more detail about the kind of verbal and emotional abuse from her husband and it was quite concerning. I will say the same again here, that you need to put yourself and your children's wellbeing first. You are right that your husband needs to be seeking help, but it is excellent that you have psych support because you are in a mentally unhealthy situation and will need that support yourself in order to cope.
If your husband suddenly stopped taking his medication, then it is not surprising that there have been rebound effects. Not only will his depression worsen, but there will be physical side effects that will be distressing for him too, and he doesn't sound like the type who will talk about his problems.
Does he have any close male friends, brothers, cousins, anyone like that who you might be able to shoulder tap to have a talk with him? You cannot be his only support person, it is not fair on you and perhaps if he hears from someone outside of the immediate family just how his behaviour has changed and is affecting you and the family, then he will listen.
