FAQ

Find answers to some of the more frequently asked questions on the Forums.

Forums guidelines

Our guidelines keep the Forums a safe place for people to share and learn information.

Resources for partners

Grumblebee
Community Member

Hi all,

Does anyone know of any good resources for the partners of people with depression. My husband is having a hard time understanding my illness and had said to me he doesn't know how to handle the situation. I have looked at the bb resources but they seem to be aimed at partners who are acting as carers. My hubby isn't my carer (i'm still working, talking care of myself ect) but I need him to understand what I'm going though (as much as someone who has never experienced depression can) 

I need him to be more supportive but I don't think this can happen till he has some empathy for my situation. I am doing my very best to get better but feel that he is hindering me. Yesterday we had a fight (over something really silly) and I told him he is supposed to be on my side and his reply was that I'm not even on my side. This upset me as I had just have my first session with my psychologist so yes, I am on my side. I left the house for a while and when I came back he apologized and we are fine now but I know it will happen again sooner or later if he doesn't have any insight into depression. 

He has been to the GP with me and maybe it would be useful for him to come to one of my counseling sessions in the future Till I'm ready for that  I'm hoping someone knows of some good literature that could help.  

Thanks

2 Replies 2

Chris_B
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Grumblebee,

I'm guessing you've seen the beyondblue Guide For Carers here >  https://www.bspg.com.au/dam/bsg/product?client=BEYONDBLUE&prodid=BL/0445&type=file

There is also information for on this section of our website:  http://www.beyondblue.org.au/resources/family-and-friends/caring-for-someone-with-depression-or-anxi...

The term carer is used to cover any significant person in your life who is providing emotional support, you don't have to be unable to work or take care of yourself.

There's also the booklet A Guide To What Works For Depression, which may give him some more insight:  https://www.bspg.com.au/dam/bsg/product?client=BEYONDBLUE&prodid=BL/0556&type=file

There is also a collection of video stories on Youtube from the perspective of partners and family members of people with depression: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KwxpkgFmgOk&feature=share&list=PLm88fe1MIuDZN8AI1NvEbaF3mfPs_RX-W

I hope some of this information is useful.

jen214
Community Member

Hi Christopher ,

 

 I am very new to the world of depression my husband has just been diagnosed and I to am struggling with what is normal and whats not he wont talk to me or even look at me and whilst he has said he does not wish to give up on us just yet hearing this breaks my heart'.. I am trying to find resources on what as a partner is to be expected whilst I continue to support him and learn as much as I can.. any information is greatly appreciated,

 

Jen