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CathyR79 · ‎20-10-2015

Hi all, im a 35yo single mum. I have 2 daughters aged 17 and 15.

Im having so much trouble with my 17yo. We both suffer from depression and anxiety. I can just bear it, but my daughter cant. When she was younger she was raped by her father over numerous yrs and Ive tried getting her help. At first she went to counseling but she stopped going coz it didnt help, we've been through that many and now she wont go to talk to anyone about it.

Now she is such an angry person, she does get violent at times and i cant control her, she has kicked and punched holes in the wall and has got violent towards me and her sister. She even goes outside and kicks and punches brick fences. It scares me a hell of alot. I don't know how to deal with her.

She does smoke cigarettes and marijuana.

All im doing now is looking for help and advice

Jacko777 · ‎21-10-2015

Hi CathyR79,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums Cathy, I am so sad to hear your story. Obviously it is terrible what you have all been through and it's a shame that your daughter didn't get the help that she needs. You could ring the BB phone service to get some solid professional advice on this, make some new plans of recovery with your daughter.

It would be terrible if your daughter did any permanent damage to herself or others when she is suffering from this anger. I bought myself a punching bag when I went through an angry phase, somewhere to cut loose, it actually made me start to control myself and I became interested in martial arts and actually developed some form and discipline. Would your daughter be interested in joining a sporting group or club so that she can divert her attention, exercise and associate with people her age? It would be great if she could get on these forums and talk to some of the fine young folks on here...she is not alone, many will relate to what she has been through (unfortunately) and will have advice and support for her.

I hope you get some help and advice here, or make a call to BB. Your daughter needs strong and positive diversions in these moments of anger and frustration, give her a giant hug from me and give your self one as well.

Jack

CathyR79 · ‎25-10-2015

thank you so much for your reply. I will definitely give BB a call, i will do that when im by myself and can speak freely.

I did get her a punching bag, my daughter didnt use it she just punched the walls. I thought about getting her into self defense/ martial arts classes, but im kind of worried she will use it against her sister. Its a hard situation.