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Hi, welcome
I do have a few suggestions.
When you chat about giving up soccer or another activity, she has to take your suggestions seriously. Burning herself out is likely with so much going on. Tell her that if she stopped one activity it will free up some extra time and you could be together for some of that extra time??
You cant "save the world". In other words, some things in life you cant control and other peoples decisions you can advise then its up to them. IMO there is no way I'd consider splitting up from her. She seems not mature enough though to make decisive decisions on her daily life. This area of development might take an extra year or two before she'll realise her priorities and seek less things to fill into her life.
Seek a routine time that you chat on the phone or on the computer. Set aside an ideal time like when you need a break from your studies. Listen- its the hardest thing to do but its the price oyu pay for being together...she needs you to listen but that doesn't mean finding a remedy for every issue she has. Reassurance- telling you that you are there for her and you love her etc. Girls like that. Girls are different than guys. Read the book- Men are from mars, women are from Venus. or extracts of it. Girls emotions are so out there!
Questions- put things to her as questions. eg "you seem really tired, have you considered dropping off one activity?" putting it in a question is better than telling her.
Life is about juggling issues and people. Give her the reassurance she craves and allow her time to find the balance of activities and tiredness. Suggest in a questioning type manner.
All the best. Repost anytime
TonyWK