Hi Ruby
Welcome to Beyond Blue and thank you for coming here and providing your post.
A very troubling situation for you and for it to be all coming on in a “kind of a rush” – as in, for you it’s not something that has been building up and building up.
A couple of things here is that firstly, yes this is NOT an uncommon happening and from my time on this site, I’ve come across a lot of instances where relationships have hit rocky grounds due to one of the couples and their depression. And it’s tough as you would know with a relationship, that there has to be work done to keep it up and happenin’ – but then it makes things so much harder if depression is introduced.
However, with what you’ve written, I believe there’s still options there for you and your husband to be able to continue on – and perhaps not just continue on as it currently is (as that doesn’t sound the absolute best situation) but for possible and hopeful improvement.
So from what I can gather, he’s been battling this depression by himself and without any help or support, etc.
NOW, if he can start to gather information about his depression as well as getting appropriate professional assistance – with dr’s and counselling and even possible medication, this can hopefully be the start of his progress in a positive direction. I’m not saying that this will fix him and cure him – but what it will do, is to hopefully lessen the extent of his depression.
None of this is an instant fix and will take time – but hopefully with the above put into place, there might even be a possibility of some relationship counselling which might give help for some options to get things back on track for you both. Just a thought?
But the biggest thing here first is for his appointment with the doctor – hopefully he has a good doc to go too?
Hope to hear from you again.
Kind regards
Neil
