Husband crying alot, what can I do?

[gilmoregirl]

Hi, I'm new here and just finding my feet. After over a decade of handling his depression, my husband has had a very major crash. It seemed things were going along not too bad, he had some issues with his new job he had been at for about 6 mths but nothing he said he couldn't handle. Then a couple of months ago he had a few nights where he wasn't sleeping, and this ended in him having a panic attack. He ended up at the hospital where they gave him medication to sleep. He then saw a doctor who prescribed Olanzapine to help calm him and help him sleep, he has now been on those for 6 weeks or so but they don't seem to be helping him much now. This week he has crashed very badly, with a couple of visits to the hospital and multiple talks with the mental health team. He had a visit with a psychologist which seemed to go well and he seemed much calmer but the very next day and since he can't seem to function without crying. I am at a lost as to what to do and feel so helpless. Has anyone else had a similar experience? How did you deal with it?

[Matchy69]

• Hi gilmoregirl and welcome to the forums. You sound like a very caring wife as me be so hard for you seeing your husband like this.I have been through those periods where I cry all the time.Whst I wanted would change some times I just wanted a hug or my hand held and sometimes someone to just listen while I let it out and other times I just wanted to be left alone and not talk at all.I think just be there for him and understand that sometimes he might not want to talk or pushes you away at times.Just love and suport him the best you can.I hope he makes an improvement soon.It will take time for medication to work and seeing a psychologist will hopefully help as well. Take care, Mark.

[gilmoregirl]

Thank you Matchy69 for reaching out. I will continue to do what I can to support him. 

[jess19_]

Hi Gilmore Girl, I am sorry to hear your going through a tough experience. I have a similar thing with my sister who has cried everyday for the last couple of months. And hysterical crying most times when nothing has brought in on. Even getting sent home from work because of it. Basically every conversation or interaction she gets teary. Seems to have an ok day but still crys at the end of the day. Her psychologist apparently said its normal but it defiantly doesnt feel normal for anyone in our family. She can cry for hours and nothing we say or do calms her down. Said she cries driving to work which worries me for her safety. She also wasn't sleeping for months. the crying seemed to improve when her sleep improved. I can only relate sorry and don't have any advice on it sorry. I regularly go to a counsellor just to speak with someone about it. Do you have some sort of support? a friend to talk to or professional? 

[gilmoregirl]

Hi jes19_, Thank you for replying.  that must be so hard to see your sister like that, very distressing. I feel so helpless. My husband has been put on other medication and the crying is not as frequent now but he is struggling to get out of bed. Despite his Doctor and Psychologist telling him needs to if wants to get better. I do have support and people I can talk to my wonderful adults kids and supportive friends but I hate unloading on them all the time. Do you find going to a counselor helps?