Hello!
I am seeking advice on how to help my girlfriend,
Here is a little bit about us, I’m 26 and she’s 24, we have been together for over a year and both came out of long term relationships around 2 years ago. We have known each other for 9 years and have had our ups and down but lately my girlfriend has gotten worse,
It all started about 9 months ago when we moved in together, she has a full time job that she gets a lot of stress from despite having a kind and supporting boss, as well as studying online part time. I work full time as well and we also live in a share house. I have had major depression in the past but have been fine for years and have not regressed since. She has also had depression in the past.
To sum it shortly without going into more detail, all of the stresses in my partners life has resulted in her self harming and feeing lost, alone and not wanting to live anymore, she cries her self to sleep every night and breaks down every day when she gets home saying “she can’t do it anymore”.
I can see she is trying, I’m trying to be compassionate and staying positive but I’m struggling to find ways to reassure And help her. Also I am being realistic about my expectations for her in that she needs major help or a major change in her life as she is stuck in a black hole.
I’d like to add we are both seeing psychologists and I found mine to be very helpful, where as she does not see hers as helpful at all.
Thank you for reading
