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dear Brookie, thanks for joining the site and the want to either overcome depression or to help someone else, which you are trying to do.
This debilitating illness is such an awful illness that it can destroy relationships, marriages or any connection between two or several people, so that it leaves a bruise on anybody concerned.
Medication can make us feel better but the underlying problems still have to be resolved, because they can't just be pushed aside as they will keep coming back to annoy us, and can be sparked off by anything at any time.
You have made the right decision to book an appointment, I just wonder how you will get him to go, especially as he seems to be pushing you away, but hopefully you will find away to do this, as it is very important that he does go.
Get your doctor to book the 10 free visits to see a psychologist, and I only mention them because from experience I prefer them rather than psychiatrists, but other people have different opinions.
Please get in contact with us. L Geoff. x
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Hi Brookie, A few years ago I got my partner to see a doctor about his depression by threatening to leave him. When he first went on medication although he said he felt better and seemed better in some ways he was really mean to me for a long time. Although this was not his first depressive episode it was the first time that he had help. He has been improving recently and I am hopeful that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Living with a depressed person can really drag you down. It seems good that you organised the appointments I hope that works out OK for you. You can end up anxious and depressed yourself. You need some support. You might need to find a way to get hugs without him for awhile. I have been tempted at times to walk away but at some level I just know that no matter how bad I feel his suffering is worse and I know that in the past we have had good times. I am sorry I do not have any easy answers.