dear Buck, hello and thank you so much for contacting this site, and I must apologise to you in not getting any replies back to you, as you must have been sweating for some advice.
I am so sorry for your girlfriend (g/f) in losing her boyfriend, and please this also extends to what you now have to try and deal with helping her.
There must have been so much that was hurting him as well as your girlfriend, problems which are unfamiliar to us, so I can't comment on any of these, however your g/f now needs to seek professional help, now that's easy to say, but can be very hard for her to do so, unless you go with her to see her doctor.
(I need to say this that I hope that she is not thinking of ending her own life now), which can be a real worry in a situation like what has unfortunately happened.
There are so many ways to overcome any feeling of suicide, but perhaps she may not be able to see it this way, so to start with if you feel that your g/f may have any thoughts of this then she needs to go hospital, and perhaps if she refuses, then you can call the police who will take her there under the mental act of 'wanting to harm herself'.
She maybe annoyed with you, but hopefully will then thank you much later on.
I can give you emergency phone numbers like for Lifeline 131114 who deal with bereavement as well: Suicide Call Back 1300659467; SANE 18 SANE (7263) and of course Beyond Blue 1300224636.
The BB phone number maybe your first phone call where they can then direct you to specific areas.
I would dearly love to know a little bit more if you are willing to tell us, but that's entirely up to you or if your g/f wants to contact us.
I wonder if she knows that you are seeking help for her. L Geoff. x
