Hi GypsyJM, welcome.
I cant tell you whether to give him another go or not but I have a few comments to make.
You said "he thinks if I'm not with him 24/7 that I am not as devoted to him as he is to me." This is not only control it s few other things thrown in. It's lack of trust and its his weighing scale inside his mind. When this occurs, in my experience, one can never equal that weighing scale. There will always be differences. Eg you might spend more time at a hair salon or a friends house than he does. Should you time your visits to equal his- its preposterous.
His comments to your daughter is purely - abuse. There is no other word that fits. With abuse (compounded by possessiveness in this situation) ther eis little chance of working things out - in the short to medium term. Why? Because in the first place he needs to see his GP, admit he has behavioural issues and follow the Dr's advice. Then he needs such appropriate treatment to run some of its course up to and include his abuse of others. Then it needs to be tested. I wouldn't like him testing it on my teenager. Sorry to be so blunt. But my child will never be the subject to anyones abuse- period.
Again, if I was in your situation I would put aside that you were married only 8 months ago. That fact alone could play havoc with your guilt and feelings of obligations. But some people are married for far longer and realise they made a mistake. Easy- if that is your realisation- move on, go through the processes and be done with it.
But of course it also depends on your feelings for him. He might go through the medical processes required of him to become stable and you might want to try for another go. But I'm cautious because this relationship isn't about you and him....its about your daughter (number 1) you and then him.
Tony WK
