The nights are the worst.
I find that the hardest time of all are the evenings. I live alone and the house is so quiet. I lay awake each night, not being able to sleep and the darkness outside my bedroom window matches the darkness inside of me.
Its at these times that the sadness feels so powerful and overwhelming. I can feel it sitting inside of my stomach like a heavy rock. I have lived a majority of my life like this and can't see any way to stop feeling like this.
What are some strategies that people might use when both your thoughts and feelings are at their darkest.
I'm sorry you've been feeling so low lately!
Now, before I jump into the advice I'd like to give you, I would like to say that this piece of advice may make you feel frustrated. The biggest (and sadly the most annoying in my opinion) piece of advice that I have ever been given is that the fastest way to make the feeling go away, is to sit through the feeling, acknowledge how you feel and to recognize that it's OK to feel that way! It's frustrating because I know that when we feel like this we want nothing more than to get rid of the feeling and unfortunately there's a possibility to turn to unhealthy methods of dealing with how we feel (e.g. drinking, drugs, self harm ect). Behaviours, such as drinking, drugs etc., are all methods of AVOIDING the feeling instead of sitting through it. Now avoiding the feeling only prolongs how long you feel the way you do and it DOES NOT make you feel any better than what you were previously feeling. These kinds of behaviours can lead to the development of negative relationships between emotions and harmful acts which may therefore lead to addiction and substance abuse problems later down the track.
There are definitely healthy ways to cope with how you're feeling though, it's not all bad I just wanted to add that piece in to ensure that you're aware :). Doing things like having a bath, listening to music or reading a book are all healthy ways to cope with emotional distress. However, I understand that when emotions start to boil over that may not be enough to put you at ease so taking up a boxing class (or any form of exercise for example) may also be a good idea because it allows you to release anger, frustration or restlessness (amongst others) in a non-harmful manner and in a controlled environment. Now of course you may not be able to take boxing classes at night however even doing it during the day would definitely help and can add a sense of routine into your life.
Hope this helps! 🙂
Im sorry you are feeling this way.
I understand it’s not a nice feeling having that feeling in your stomach.
I have a lived experience of severe anxiety OCD, I also experienced a uncomfortable feeling my stomach .
Mine was always there I always felt like I was running from something.
I had the sleepless nights aswell.
I seeked professional help for what I was going through and I’ve now recovered. It was a marathon of a journey but now life couldn’t be better.
Things really can get better for you ……
Have you seeked professional help?
I did a group therapy for what I was going through I was given many strategies and tools. One of the skills I learned was meditation, have you ever tried this?
I know that you are right.
I saw my psychologist today and directly afterwards I started drinking in order to numb the feelings that I expected during our session.
Perhaps next time I will try some of the other strategies that you have suggested.
I have an absolutely awesome psychologist but I don't feel that seeing her once a week is enough.
Not making any assumptions but have u ever tried aa?
I had an addiction problem, I stopped, but I think in a way without someone to talk to about my experience it led me to be bit intense after stopping, I like Aa because u get the peer support
I numb myself in various ways, and I'm trying to replace it with new things, for me also just being alone seems Safe, I am scared of connecting so I turn to addictive ways of coping. It's hard.
Hi pandemics, I hope I didn't offend u in any way by suggesting it, I absolutely don't know Ur specifics with alcohol but I am a big believer in the aa model.
I believe in ppl who have been through it helping each other
There's a show on netflix Love about love and sex addiction
And a show on Amazon, loudermilk about aa support
I have been to one meeting and never went back.
If u need support or encouragement, just letting u know we will be here for u x