Sad

[GreenEgg]

Something happened this week and I feel so sad and lonely. I just want it to end. I want to tell someone but everyone seems so happy. Or I don’t know how. 

[Sophie_M]

Dear GreenEgg
 
Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums, we are so glad that you have made you way here and had the bravery to post and will be reaching out to you privately to offer you some additional support this evening, please could you check you inbox?.
 
We can hear that you are in a very lonely place right now; which when left alone with our thoughts, we become our own worst enemy, in this case, everyone else seems so happy and I feel so sad and lonely.  Please know that you are not alone and most of all, give yourself the credit you deserve for acknowledging these feelings you are experiencing and having the courage to reach out to the forum this evening.

While you wait for a response to your post this evening, we would love for you to give one of our fully trained counsellors a call for some counselling support, we are here 24/7 on 1300 22 4636 or via our WebChat.  In addition, our lovely friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) and the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467) are always there for you whenever things are feeling like too much to cope with.

Thank you again for reaching out, we will leave you in the hands of our lovely community members who will be here on your thread soon. They’re a really amazing community, and will have understanding, advice and kind words for you.  Thanks again for sharing. It’s a powerful and brave first step towards feeling better.
 
Regards 
 
Sophie M

[therising]

Hi GreenEgg

I feel for you so much, given how deeply you've been impacted by this event. It is one thing to try and analyse or think our way through such a time, it's quite another to feel our way through, especially when there are so many feelings/emotions involved.

I'm wondering if you have someone in your life who is a good listener and also a feeler (someone who can feel for how you must be feeling). Figuring out the right person to confide in can often be the first step. It doesn't necessarily matter whether that person is on a high/happy because, no matter what, they'll listen and feel for you.

I'm a big believer in the fact we will always need some form of support and guidance in our life at different stages no matter our age or circumstances. Some challenges can't be managed alone, based on the nature of those challenges. If they're first time challenges, technically we have no reference for them in order to manage. Finding others who can help us manage is key to finding the way forward. The person or people who help us can help set our direction in a number of ways, so we're not left standing still while wondering which way to go.

Who comes to mind, in your life, when it comes to them being a good and compassionate listener and feeler, a great supporter and an inspiring direction setter or director?

[GreenEgg]

Thank you so much for your reply. I feel so lonely and like I’d not have anyone I can talk to. Some of my friends I know they’d understand and talk to me but I just feel so stupid because they’ve been through so much and I don’t want to burden them. I feel like I have no reason to feel this way.

And at the same time I don’t fully trust them. I feel so sad and I know they don’t mean it but sometimes they make jokes or say things and I can’t bear it. I’m so skinny and pale and often they joke that I’m a vampire or like a corpse and it feels unbearable because that’s what I feel like inside. Like this big empty black hole. But I just laugh and smile along