Older people

[JillyDog]

I am older but not yet old. Am I the only one of my age who feels flat, dead inside, that living is just hard work?

[tranzcrybe]

Hi JillyDog,

A quick glance through some other posts will suggest you are anything but alone in your present feelings.

Welcome to Beyond Blue and the prevalence of general discontentment/malaise that affects many age groups - is it a post-covid syndrome? Students suffer these very thoughts as do parents, singles, and those in seemingly perfect relationships.

Perhaps it may be more precise to say that it is not the living but the lifestyle we find ourselves living - where many expectations turn out to be delusions or mere distractions from where we feel we should be?

What has changed from your past that has lead you to this sensation?

Regards,

t.

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear JillyDog...

A very warm and caring welcome to our forums...

To answer your question...No..most definitely not..I’m 64 and feel flat, dead inside at times..and find living very hard work...your not alone lovely Jilly...

It would be so nice to get to know you a little better..only if you want..there’s no pressure here..

Have you always felt this way or has something happened recently to trigger these feeling..

Looking forward to hearing how your feeling, Please talk here anytime and if you want to you can share as much or as little as you feel to...

My kindest and most caring thoughts..

Grandy..

[JillyDog]

Thank you for your post. For me it’s not just one incident or event but a lifetime of being the strong one always bouncing back with a smile on my face when life has hit hard. I think my emotional and physical resilience bank account is empty - drained away completely. Not being able to see my one and only grand baby that was the straw that finally broke the camels back. To deeply love your child is heart fulfilling- to not see your grand baby grow up is soul destroying.

being dead inside makes me question why keep living.

[Ggrand]

Hello Jilly,

I was in a situation that I had to bounce back or else..(domestic violence)...I can understand that feeling very well and it’s totally exhausting and very lonely because we struggle with our own mental health..but have to hide it from others...since my husband passed away it and a secret I held from my sons was brought forward...a huge rift was built between us...I missed out on seeing my grand children growing up for around 5 years.cant remember exactly...My sons stopped all communication to me and I missed my last 2 twins..never cuddled them saw them etc along with my other grandchildren..all up 9 grandchildren and now a great grandson...it was extremely heartbreaking..

I didn’t give up trying to be a part of their lives...but I didn’t hassle them...I sent msgs every birthday, Christmas Easter etc...and added if you ever need me..I’m always here for you...love you all lots..Last year my eldest needed me..because his partner was diagnosed with brain cancer...He needed someone to watch his children...my grandchildren..3 off them while he and his partner concentrated on her operation, radiation and chemo...I travelled 700 kilometres to watch them...The rift was starting to heal...We reconnected again...but still I don’t see them or talk to them..just text msg once in a few months...I need to be happy with that...My youngest son msgs me frequently but again the distance, makes it hard for me to see them....It’s been nearly 1 year since I went to mind the children....I haven’t seen them in so long and it hurts...deeply...but they know I’m there for them....

Thought I would share part of my story...to let you know lovely Jilly you are not alone..

Can I ask you...It’s okay if you don’t want to answer...Has something happened between your son/daughter that has prevented them letting you see your grand baby?..Or has COVID prevented this to happen...

Talk here beautiful Jilly...anytime you want to..I am here for you and will care and support you the best I can..

sending you my kindest and most caring thoughts..

Grandy..