What is the best piece of advice that you have gotten that has stuck with you?

[livi_mivi]

I heard this question the other day and it has been playing on my mind ever since. I would love to hear advice, quotes, books and/or experiences that you have come across that have really changed your perspective or shaped you in some kind of way. I think that we all have so much to learn off of each other's experiences and wisdom!

[Banksy92]

Love this thread idea, livi_mivi.

For me, a powerful piece of advice I was given once was to always try to react as the best version of yourself.

So, when you are faced with a really difficult situation with someone (maybe a conflict or stressful situation) before you respond, try to pause and consider how you would respond if you were being the absolute best version of yourself. The person you aspire to be, not the person you might feel like right now.

It's very powerful, and has stopped me from reacting in an inflammatory way to conflict many times.

[mmMekitty]

Hello Livi_mivi,

I'll give this topic some thought...late now, 🙀&need 💤(with every chance I won't get enough, due to various reasons, the latest of which is a nasty flu).

mmMekitty💭

[geoff]

Hello Livi_mivi, whatever advice is provided to us, we have to either go through it or experience it ourselves before we believe it's the best advice given to us and in doing this, we have to expect the positives as well as the negatives, but try and remain neutral before we know what we think is the right decision.

We have to understand both sides and not necessarily be drawn in what's going to happen, until we can visualise the positives, because if we take on believing all the negatives associated with this and aren't prepared to dismiss them, then we aren't ready to take on any advice.

Once you are ready to accept, then you have plans where you are able to find solutions to anything negative without it affecting you, remain positive and believe in yourself, when this can't be done, you need to find out why.

It's the ability to reason with both the negatives as well as the positives because what you've been told may be exaggerated to the extreme.

Best wishe.

Geoff.

[livi_mivi]

Hey Banksy92,

I really love this piece of advice, I find that it's so common to react without thinking and that can definitely cause many problems in the long run. I will definitely be more mindful of this and strive to remember this when I am faced with those difficult situations!

Thanks for that!

[livi_mivi]

Hey mmMekitty,

I'm sorry to hear that you have come down with the flu, I hear that it can get pretty intense! I look forward to hearing your advice, I am sure it will be a valuable contribution.

For now, I hope that you are resting well and have started to see better days x

[livi_mivi]

Hey Geoff,

This is an interesting and insightful way to put things. I like the idea that our experiences can really shape our perspective! I read something similar to the notion that you were suggesting, that chasing happiness/positivity constantly without considering the negatives can be quite unfulfilling. I think as humans, we are always going to be experiencing the ups and downs of life so it's important to understand how to cope and find satisfaction within these fluctuations.

Thank you for your words of wisdom!