dear Coco, when we wake up and have a day or feel pretty low and know it's going to be awful, we suddenly begin with all the negative points in life, because that's what we all tend to do, we can't deny this, so as the day progresses we end up a total mess, and all we want to do is sleep and snug under our doona.
So we wake up and feel like this, so already we know these bad points in our life, and if we travel through them again then this won't help you at all, because time after time they have always brought us down, so we know this already, and what's the point in bringing them up again, everytime we feel awful, because it means that we haven't been able to solve them or at sort them out, so now nothing will change.
Try to push them to one side, you know they are there, but at the moment you're not strong enough to solve them, and now won't be any different.
So in return you have to try and do something that you like to do, either before your depression or now when you feel OK, because as soon as you start to dwell on those negative points you won't begin to feel better.
It can be an enormous job and maybe asking too much especially when you feel down, but it's the strength that you have to try and teach yourself, I know it's hard, but just take baby steps a bit at a time. Geoff.
