Many of us have fears but I'd suggest a lot of those with mental anxieties have more than most.Fear of a parent, a sibling, war, being victims of crime or brutal violence in a relationship. Non violent abuse can cause fear as well.Basing my belief that one can find a positive in nearly everything in life where can there be any positive in fear?
I diverse. ADHD was thought to originate from ancient times. An over alert state of mind being developed from things like others stealing food or your partner. Men were the protector and ADHD is more prominent in men???So where does fear lead us?
I can speak of my case briefly. As a young prison officer just 21yo I grew fear from the many frightening incidences during that 3 year period. Not to mention the fear of not knowing when an incident will occur, the inmates greatest asset. I also had anxiety and impulsivity prior to that job and then unknown bipolar 2 etc.
Fear pushed me to find answers. I knew I had high stress levels and this came to roost one dark day when I got a parking fine, ran into the back of another car then when arriving home got an unexpected bill in the mail. That evening I knew I had to act.
As a boy I'd spent Xmas holidays milking cows on my grandfather's farm in Tasmania. I loved it. The quiet lane of life. So, I set about planning the short, medium and long term plans.
Yes its fear that got me here, a quaint cottage in the hills. No parking meters at the two large nearby towns, no long queues even at the car registration offices etc. My good wife has organised most bills by direct debit (except the telco as they mess it up all the time) and all in all our life pace has slowed.
Fear has produced a positive. I no longer feel fear. Anxiety or crumbs of it will always prevail, but fear is a terrible thing to cope with.
My suggestion is for you to find your own safety zone. Create it by selecting carefully those people you communicate with, the environment if which you live and the lifestyle you lead.
There are positives in nearly everything in life. Even fear...control fear by reducing what you can no longer cope with.
Tony WK
