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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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Paul Mental Health Week 9th to 16th October 2016
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Mental health week approaches. It's a time of caring and awareness, a time of nurturing and being nurtured and a time to not be afraid to reach out for help. It takes courage to reach out and have that first conversation. Maybe mental health week is ... View more

Mental health week approaches. It's a time of caring and awareness, a time of nurturing and being nurtured and a time to not be afraid to reach out for help. It takes courage to reach out and have that first conversation. Maybe mental health week is the time to consider what's stopping you from telling someone, or trying something new. There is some amazing programming on TV during mental health week. Upsetting, hopeful and thought provoking. Mental health week can be a week where we educate others in a gentle and loving way. There might be someone who doesn't quite understand that mental health isn't spotted by bandages or crutches or a surgical scar. We love and we are loved, just like anyone else. What will you do this mental health week? Paul

Guest_3072 Academic Lethargy
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Hi everyone, So I'm currently at uni in my 3rd year out of a 4 year degree. This year has been my worst so far academically. I used to be a good student. My GPA was 5.8 (out of 7) and it has dropped to 5.0 (out of 7). I am barely passing my assignmen... View more

Hi everyone, So I'm currently at uni in my 3rd year out of a 4 year degree. This year has been my worst so far academically. I used to be a good student. My GPA was 5.8 (out of 7) and it has dropped to 5.0 (out of 7). I am barely passing my assignments and even submitting some assignments unfinished and procrastinating and it's causing a lot of stress. I just know that I can do better and I'm just not enjoying the units I'm studying this semester. I feel like I've let myself down with not being engaged with the learning material and in that way, I haven't really gotten my moneys worth in terms of HECS fees and what-not. I don't know, do you guys have any tips on how I get better because my self-esteem is being hit pretty hard, especially with comments from tutors about my assignments and so forth.

MarkJT Using elite sport as mindfulness.
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With the AFL grand final today and the NRL grand final tomorrow, I wanted to drop a post and show that watching elite sport can be used as mindfulness. I remember back in the 2013 AFL season, Geelong where playing North Melbourne at Etihad stadium. I... View more

With the AFL grand final today and the NRL grand final tomorrow, I wanted to drop a post and show that watching elite sport can be used as mindfulness. I remember back in the 2013 AFL season, Geelong where playing North Melbourne at Etihad stadium. I was having real trouble controlling the anxiety being in a crowded and loud area but was able to keep myself grounded relatively well. I decided at one particular point that i was just going to concentrate on watching Jimmy Bartel, a Geelong player. Not watch the game as a whole, just follow Bartel. What i found, or really stumbled upon, was a really good grounding technique to use. Because i was concentrating on Bartel so much, I actually relaxed somewhat. I then started to marvel at how skilled he was. I mean i always knew that he was a highly skilled player but I had a newfound appreciation of just how good he was. The ability to run flat out, pick up a ball, run some more and then kick it 40 odd meters with pin point precision was really good to watch. Watching the Melbourne Vixens in netball was awesome, so much skill in such a quick game. I am also a huge NFL fan. It is a massive game of chess, so complicated and yet so so skillful. I know do this with pretty much all sport that i watch, either live or on the TV. The next time you watch some kind of porting event, yes watch the game but really hone in on the skills that is required to actually play that game at that level.

white knight Only the strongest survive…make it YOU
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That’s nature right? It has been so for every animal on the planet since life began. Why would humans be different? We, those with mental/emotional struggles are seen as the weak in the eyes of the domineering. Modern society has a long way to go for... View more

That’s nature right? It has been so for every animal on the planet since life began. Why would humans be different? We, those with mental/emotional struggles are seen as the weak in the eyes of the domineering. Modern society has a long way to go for fairness for all. So, if you feel vulnerable, an easy target in social situations, what can you do? Do you need to “toughen up princess” as was told to me so many times? What survival techniques can you implement to survive? In my experience toughening up isn’t natural unless you include it in your natural maturing development. It’s like patience…where do you buy that? So, allowing comments to become “water off a ducks back” isn’t natural for us. Swallowing hurt is really tough because it goes against our feelings, our personality. Google Topic: sensitive beyond reasonable- beyondblue Topic: depression and sensitivity a connection?- beyondblue This is the sole reason I’ve retreated from society. No more committees (car clubs, volleyball, council sub committee’s etc). The less people you are in contact with the less chance of abuse right? It’s logical. But is it ideal to "live" in my shed?? For some of us retreating isn’t so easy. Some are talkers, we need vocal communication, we want to be liked, admired and successful. So the challenge is to get a balance. Google- Topic: the labyrinth of friendships- beyondblue Topic: the balance of your life- beyondblue Your happy place is for you and you only to find. To dodge the rogues, to identify those people that could trigger much hurt, to remain cordial and calm with the best level of judgement. To no longer feel obligated when some throw expectations upon you…to learn to tactfully say “no thankyou but good luck with your committee’s future.” Don't allow others to use you like a puppet Topic: controlling your life- how important is it?- beyondblue Find your “happy place”. Acknowledge to yourself you are not well. Find the insulation you need as a defence from those that think survival means to conquer. You are not in this world to live up to others expectations. Topic: wit, the only answer to torment- beyondblue You will not become stronger, its not in your nature even to mimic those that dominate. You’ll likely over react and been seen as the nasty one Be stronger by building your defence. Let those with fork tongue throw stones at your brick walls as you nurture yourself away from their chants. And be happy Tony WK

Nicoc What skills would you draw on if...?
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Morning all I'm barely keeping my head above water today, so I've started a new thread to see if others can share their ideas and help me stay afloat. My life has taken some very dramatic twists and turns in the past few months. First of all, I lost ... View more

Morning all I'm barely keeping my head above water today, so I've started a new thread to see if others can share their ideas and help me stay afloat. My life has taken some very dramatic twists and turns in the past few months. First of all, I lost my mum to cancer at the end of May. She was diagnosed and died 1 week and 6 days later. Then my youngest child (youngest of nine) decided to live with her father...so I lost her too. Then my son went too. So technically I'm grieving the loss of three people I love. Having been a full time mother since 17 means that I no longer have the day-to-day care of children. So technically my long time career has gone belly-up. I feel ...displaced...like a refugee, not feeling at home with this experience called life. The funny thing is, that my mum has left me a lot of money....I will be a wealthy woman and isn't financial freedom what we all dream about? Trouble is...it means nothing in the face of loss-of-self. If any of you can share insight...it would be more valuable than gold. Kind regards Nic

white knight BURNOUT, the turtle and the hare
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My grandfather had his old black Zephyr for 35 years. Never missed a beat. Rolling along at 70 kph in the Tasmanian hills the car just plodded along just like his old grey tractor on his farm. As for my cars, all 90 of them, they wore out quick (or g... View more

My grandfather had his old black Zephyr for 35 years. Never missed a beat. Rolling along at 70 kph in the Tasmanian hills the car just plodded along just like his old grey tractor on his farm. As for my cars, all 90 of them, they wore out quick (or got sold quickly) indicative of a manic young man. For I was almost running when walking. Hindsight is indeed a wonderful thing but burnout was on the cards and at 31yo in 1987 my GP and occupational therapist were in tandem to stop this out of control full speed ahead steam train. The catalyst was a breach of my honour at work. The result? More likely to be conflict. Views by others that I was " paranoid ". So those of you reading this with lots of anxiety and wondering how you got it in the first place, maybe you will only see clearer when your steam train has slowed, many years later, when clarity comes with aging and post effective treatment. Mr Plodder down the street is in a slow routine, accomplishes most things he sets his mind to but at a slow easy pace. Some of us want it all done yesterday. The big problem is that our fast pace has become our nature. Google.. Topic: accepting yourself, the frog and the scorpion- beyondblue It isn't easy changing the nature of a scorpion and the frog was always going to be bitten regardless that the frog carried him across the river.! Google. Topic: how natural is depression? - beyondblue Burnout arrives and the even bigger problem presents itself- depression. The black dog seemingly has been lurking to attack whatever strength you had left. Google.. Topic: low self esteem- beyondblue Now you are at the lowest ebb and you and any partner or friends are at a loss of how to help. The fight against depression begins. Topic: Clear the road, I'm on my way- beyondblue Your friends will drift. Most, get tired of listening. Google: Topic: rejection-its hard to swallow- beyondblue Topic: they won't understand,why?- beyondblue So, prevention is better than cure. If you identify a child that can't relax, introduce calmness, slow observations of life's wonders and in their teens, visits to their GP. For you now though self help, when you can muster it, is vital. Facing depression and getting treatment is an act of bravery. Google. Topic: insight and faith- beyondblue The fight will be a tough one. Take it slow. Topic: supermarket shelves- beyondblue But don't despair. There is hope. Topic: being positive, what's the secret- beyondblue Tony WK Tony WK

MarkJT Positivity - how much is to much?
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I know from my experience that being and in lower times trying to be positive is part of every day activities. I have a great support crew around me that help me by being positive but have you ever got to a point that others, that mean well, but get ... View more

I know from my experience that being and in lower times trying to be positive is part of every day activities. I have a great support crew around me that help me by being positive but have you ever got to a point that others, that mean well, but get annoying with it? I'm not talking about the "just think happy thoughts" people, but you are caught in the middle as you know they mean well but generally have little understanding what it is like living in the darkness. Positivity is such a crucial part to recovery and continual well being but when does it become to much? How do you handle those people that are like that? How do you stay positive? How do you flip a negative into a positive?

MarkJT Self Worth - when you lose it.
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In early 2013 i was diagnosed with PTSD, depression and anxiety. I had lost all of my of resilience and self worth. I distinctly remember having this horrible physical feeling in my chest at this time. I have never been able to adequately describe ho... View more

In early 2013 i was diagnosed with PTSD, depression and anxiety. I had lost all of my of resilience and self worth. I distinctly remember having this horrible physical feeling in my chest at this time. I have never been able to adequately describe how bad a feeling was other than it was like the devils own butterflies in my chest. I had it for a few weeks and then it subsided....thankfully!! Has anyone experienced this type of feeling? How long did it last for? Can you describe it better than what i can?

blondguy What Do You Miss in Your Life? Go For It...New Posters Welcome!
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Hello Everybody Being human we all miss something..This is not a negative/serious thread.Just a post for reflection. Whether 1, 2 , 3 or more please share Its always healthy to have a little vent I miss..... Companionship/Holding Hands Using my Tasma... View more

Hello Everybody Being human we all miss something..This is not a negative/serious thread.Just a post for reflection. Whether 1, 2 , 3 or more please share Its always healthy to have a little vent I miss..... Companionship/Holding Hands Using my Tasmanian Blackwood dining table for a family lunch/dinner....its been over 10 years Disco/12" Extended Vinyl Mixes and playing them My Parents when they were happy together My years when Depression/Anxiety didn't exist My Childhood Even if you have just one part of your life you miss...please feel free to share...whether its humorous or serious is fine Kind thoughts Paul

Doolhof Encouragement for weight loss and healthy eating
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Hi Everyone. I am just going to put this title out there and see what happens. Later on I will try to add old thread titles relating to this issue. People may have wonderful weight loss stories to share, ideas on exercises that are beneficial, reduci... View more

Hi Everyone. I am just going to put this title out there and see what happens. Later on I will try to add old thread titles relating to this issue. People may have wonderful weight loss stories to share, ideas on exercises that are beneficial, reducing binge eating tips etc. Healthy recipes will also be welcome. Maybe even healthy foods you enjoy but your family consider to be rabbit food! Ha. Ha. Unfortunately for depression sometimes means binge eating and comfort foods. A carrot just is not comfort food to my brain! I need to find ways to rechannel that way of thinking! All ideas and thoughts are welcome here! Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools