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Suggestions of enjoyable, relaxing &/or helpful activities for self-care when you are feeling down

Elizabeth CP
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

I am starting this thread in the hope people will share ideas of things to do which they enjoy or help take their mind off their problems or just help them feel better. Since becoming stressed & depressed things which I used to enjoy are no longer available, are too hard or no longer fun and I suspect their are others like me who need to do things to feel good again but have trouble thinking of ideas.

Everyone is different so what suits one person won't suit another but each person's ideas will suit someone else.

When you are tired, depressed, stressed or just need a break what do you like to do? 

I like to visit a friend who I can trust. We can complain & vent to each other without it being taken out of context or shared with anyone else. Unfortunately she lives 2 hrs away so I can't visit often

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Whoa Tony! Beautiful poems. I've never appreciated poetry before but in my current state, and your way with words, they are really resonating with me. 

I'll admit I'm becoming a stalker of your posts to see if they include any of your poetry. 

Thank you for sharing.

Maureen
Community Member

Hello Elizabeth, I have lost enjoyment of so many past activities. One remaining constant however is I love to read. During these days of depression and anxiety no matter what type of day I'm experiencing I will read. I can close off everything but the words on the page. Heaven! 

I'm also lucky to have 2 dogs, who think I'm nuts. But they always stand by me. I make myself walk the dogs every day and can usually get in the moment checking out the neighbours gardens, noticing the birds landing in the trees, watching the way the muscles in the dog's bodies move as they walk/run ahead. 

I've also started repainting the interior of the house. Lots of work but having fresh coats of paint on the walls, in colours I chose rather than what the previous owners left is very satisfying. Yes, having to go over areas not done well enough because the day I painted hadn't been a good one is a pain but the end result is wonderful.

Thank you Maureen, I have been repainting as well. I found colour has an impact on mood. I had a bedroom once done in creams & browns & natural wood. Everything was nice but I felt depressed in the room. I put a blue carpet down & a blue bedspread & felt more relaxed in the room. Problem for me is getting the balance right of doing enough to progress without overdoing things & becoming exhausted with is bad for my mood.

romantic you are right sometimes pushing yourself to clean up the house is helpful. I was advised to think about why you are doing it. I was told avoid trying to please others or keeping up with what I thought others expect but cleaning & tidying etc to ensure the house suits me is beneficial. For example keeping it tidy & organised so I can find things easily is good or having it so it looks nice to me so it promotes good feelings is important.

Elizabeth and romantic, I too clean the house to feel better. I have cream tiles which are constantly covered in stuff from the garden. I have started sweeping instead of vacuuming. I'm happy getting a clean floor, don't have the noise of the vacuum so can listen to music at the same time and get a bit of exercise. Win, win!

I struggled today to find anything to do. My husband was out so I had free time. I was tired so not up to anything productive but felt unable to find anything relaxing to do to take my mind off negative thoughts

Any ideas.

Hi Elizabeth....i hope something here may help....

* DVD? Xanadu? Dances With Wolves? A really daggy movie you can laugh at?

* Anyone you can have a yak to on the phone...maybe? (I dont but I wish!)

* I forgot Elizabeth...sorry...do you have a dog?...or a cat?

I just met a girl at Coles this afternoon that had the most gorgeous blue heeler. The girl had a broken spine last year and is in recovery....she mentioned that her Blue Heeler was by her side the whole time.....

Sorry if these dont work for you Elizabeth....I tried and will keep trying too..

Paul

Thank you

I don't have any pets. Thanks for trying. I appreciate it

Hey Elizabeth

I can feel your pain....here for you...

Paul

Hey Elizabeth, My main go to is reading. However I found some books on learning to draw, something I thought I couldn't do. So like you found myself trying to stop the negatives but not up for anything much. I grabbed some paper and started following the instructions. I actually found it fun. Drew some cartoonist owls, birds, snails, etc. Then just started doodling. Managed to focus for over an hour. Amazing. If this interests you check out 'zentangle'. It shows how to create some amazing drawings.

Hope this helps.

Maureen

Yes I enjoy reading but stick to light reading at the moment. Not confident with drawing