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Not doing well...

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Not sure if this is the right place... but im not doing well, i need someone anyone to tell me its ok...


My dad died suddenly 2 years ago and its taken almost that long to finalise the estate which was a living hell with family refusing to assist, my wife was diagnosed with terminal illness 6 months later and ive spent the last 18 caring for her while trying to work in order to pay bills mortgages ect.. centrelink will give us nothing


She refuses to let anyone else help or to be open about her problems, ive been forced out of the bedroom because of snoring,i sleep 6 hours a night if im lucky. I have no friends and no hobbies because i have zero time left for anything.


I get yelled at and abused daily for shit that happened years ago and has nothing to do with me, ive been shut out of everything. 


I dont want to hurt myself or anyone else i just need a way to get her to understand that she has to change her attitude to make time for others. And i need someone to tell me its ok

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Hi corran,

Welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out to us.


I am so sorry you have been going through so many things for the past couple of years. I can say from experience, I know how much living with all of that can wear you down and leave you spiralling downwards.


I am sorry you lost your father, it sounds like you didn't really have the opportunity to grieve that loss before you had to deal with another crisis.


I think I can say it will be ok when you have the help you need which you clearly don't have at the moment. There are people you can contact for help dealing with all you are going through and I have asked our moderators to give you some information in regards to that. Please do reach out to the contacts they give you, you don't have to do it all alone, you deserve what ever assistance is available to you.


I want you to know you are not alone, we are here to support you so feel free to continue this conversation if you wish, I just wanted to make sure that you can reach out for some real time support as well.


Please take good care of yourself,