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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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Janey_beyond Feeling drained from work
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Hi everyone.I want to reach out on here and see if anyone is feeling the same way in regards to working full time and sometimes feeling almost ‘burnt out’ on the weekends. I finished school last year and started working full time. The first job I got... View more

Hi everyone.I want to reach out on here and see if anyone is feeling the same way in regards to working full time and sometimes feeling almost ‘burnt out’ on the weekends. I finished school last year and started working full time. The first job I got I was super excited and wanted to use it as an opportunity to gain experience. However, after a few months I really started to hate it and was crying at work, hiding in the bathroom, etc. I started a new job again recently, thinking it would be better, and although in most aspects it is, I think it’s just ‘working’ in general. Neither of these jobs have been necessarily emotionally or physically demanding, but I find on the weekend I am exhausted and depressed.Does anyone else feel like this and if so, how do you cope? It makes me worried about my future career pathway because I’ve realised I hate working a 9-5 ‘corporate’ job and it makes me second guess going to Uni just to enter into a corporate industry. I have also realised when I start to dislike something or when the excitment ends from starting something new, I feel bored and want to jump to the next big thing (this has happened in other areas of my life besides jobs).How do I stay resilient and allow myself to take on feedback from others instead of running the second I feel a problem coming?Any advice or thoughts are appreciated!

Love Seeking answers
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Anyone felt like you stuck in life? Doubt yourself? Felt you are useless and worthless? Don’t know what to do? Where to go? Failing in relationships failing in career failing in self improvement? I’m scared of being lost?

Anyone felt like you stuck in life? Doubt yourself? Felt you are useless and worthless? Don’t know what to do? Where to go? Failing in relationships failing in career failing in self improvement? I’m scared of being lost?

Guest_88286063 Self hatred and Anger snaps
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Hi, I am having trouble with anger. The anger is explosive, destructive and aimed at myself.my anger is mostly directed at inanimate objects. I’ve destroyed phones, laptops, glasses and plates. My anger is always when I’m by myself. I also hurt mysel... View more

Hi, I am having trouble with anger. The anger is explosive, destructive and aimed at myself.my anger is mostly directed at inanimate objects. I’ve destroyed phones, laptops, glasses and plates. My anger is always when I’m by myself. I also hurt myself by banging my head. I think it’s because I believe I’m useless. I have reached out and spoken to someone at BB today. This is the first time of reached out for help with anger.

Thelongestroad How to reconnect with people and regain social interaction/make new friends/connections
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Hi im a 37 year old single man struggling to regain a social life again due to a combination of things such as depression, unemployment, addiction, jail. And life constantly being disrupted and set back time and time again. im constantly isolated fro... View more

Hi im a 37 year old single man struggling to regain a social life again due to a combination of things such as depression, unemployment, addiction, jail. And life constantly being disrupted and set back time and time again. im constantly isolated from people as i live alone. I just feel stuck in life. I wish I could find a way to meet someone and build a new life but I don’t know how.. I’ve drifted apart from all my friends and family but want to move forward and want to life a fulfilling life but struggling with not only being unemployed but poor and depressed and lonely. I’m just tired of living that way I want to live a more fulfilling life but struggling with direction not knowing where to start.

Anon0 Functional Addict
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Been on drugs for 6 months now, everyday, keeping up the appearance that everything is all good ie eating, sleeping (max 6 hours a night)working, and working out, I’m only 25, I hate myself. I can’t face my friends so I make new ‘drug’ friends and wo... View more

Been on drugs for 6 months now, everyday, keeping up the appearance that everything is all good ie eating, sleeping (max 6 hours a night)working, and working out, I’m only 25, I hate myself. I can’t face my friends so I make new ‘drug’ friends and work is as you can imagine not great. I’ve been in this position before but just hadn’t been smoking for as long, any tips/advice to staying off the shit? I’m calling in sick rather frequently now just because I can’t be bothered and am too cooked, which is not what I want to be remembered as to people. I love drugs, all of them, my life has and does revolve around them, socialising without them seems weird and just boring. I need to tell my parents and friends what I’ve been doing and that I need help but there’s such a stigma with some drugs and as a male it is hard to talk about our deeper darker secrets. Any advice would be appreciated, this site seems good, hopefully someone sees this before Monday oh also my paranoia is through the bloody roof, I use drugs to combat it and trying to use drugs to get me out of this hole but it’s just easier to reload..

Jadefire Anger issues
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I’ve been struggling with anger issues, and only recently I’ve decided to reach out about it, I’ve had many friendships end over one petty argument I’ve blown way out of proportion in a lot of online forums between 2022-2024, I’m worried about hurtin... View more

I’ve been struggling with anger issues, and only recently I’ve decided to reach out about it, I’ve had many friendships end over one petty argument I’ve blown way out of proportion in a lot of online forums between 2022-2024, I’m worried about hurting people verbally both online and in-person, whenever I have an outburst, I feel like I’m a passenger in my body as this terrifying out of control side of me takes over in the driver’s seat, it’s been a massive hindrance on my mental health, cognitive functions and communication skills since my early teen years Any coping strategies are welcome

SourceShield --->>> Homelessness Hacks <<<---
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Hey Folks, A couple years back now, I experienced homelessness, for a whole year!. I had made some very 'poor' financial decisions. But, I am on track now, soon I will be opening a Creativity Consultancy Company in Melbourne, so my life is all good! ... View more

Hey Folks, A couple years back now, I experienced homelessness, for a whole year!. I had made some very 'poor' financial decisions. But, I am on track now, soon I will be opening a Creativity Consultancy Company in Melbourne, so my life is all good! <- Comparatively speaking of course!. I offer this post for any that may experience homelessness. I'm guessing that most, if not all, are reading from the comfort of a home. But, if youre not, or in the future, if life gets you down and out on the street, just know that I am here - there is no judgement. If you need support, remember this post, and other links - to keep you safe and sane!. ---HACKS--- Basics - Find a place to wash yourself and keep yourself 'fresh'. I lied to the guy at the gym, and got myself free membership, for two weeks - it meant that I could store my bags in the locker for the day, until I needed it at night. I was clean. And, I could exercise, homelessness, gets really boring! There are other places to clean up, take note of these places as you walk around the streets. Listen to other people that are experiencing homelessness, but also use discernment, some places are filthy. Listen out for the 'free food' places - these resources are here, so take advantage of them...take what you must, but no more. There are others that need to eat as well. Keep your wits about you - I wrote everyday. I also had my dog with me, so he always keeps me mindful. But, do something everyday to keep your presence of mind. This is important, too many on the streets, go 'mad' with it all. I totally get it now - it only took me 3 days of sleeping on concrete streets, for me to feel my sanity slipping. I feel that many on the streets cant move beyond this state of homelessness, because they have 'lost it', due to being on the street. Its a vicious cycle. Visit libraries etc, and if they have free internet...use it! I was looking on Gumtree for work, everyday. Day jobs...meant a little more money - that meant freedom! Find a 'spot' to sleep, and keep that as your 'base' to return to. That helps to keep routine in your life, again very important for the homeless. Above all, do not let the shame that you may feel, beat you on this one. If you are on the streets, and dont wanna be there, there is no shame in raising your hands and asking for help. Your feelings are valid too, whether you are homeless or not. There are other hacks, and if there are any questions, I am here for you!

Guest_19965465 Stress, constant overthinking, and management.
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Reaching a certain age, there are expectations from brown family for a woman. Also looking at peers thriving in their relationships, careers makes it harder to feel okay nowadays. I feel lost. How to take control of things, when u don’t know what u w... View more

Reaching a certain age, there are expectations from brown family for a woman. Also looking at peers thriving in their relationships, careers makes it harder to feel okay nowadays. I feel lost. How to take control of things, when u don’t know what u want from life?

white knight Should we "harden up"
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I was first told that by a colleague in the Airforce at 17yo, then as a prison warder at 21yo then as a crowd controller at 29yo seems every job I took on, eventually someone saw my emotional side and mistook that for weakness. But that side also cau... View more

I was first told that by a colleague in the Airforce at 17yo, then as a prison warder at 21yo then as a crowd controller at 29yo seems every job I took on, eventually someone saw my emotional side and mistook that for weakness. But that side also caused a problem, once my weakness was judged, the opportunists would circle like sharks, eager to dominate, intimidate and control. By the time I reached 35yo I knew a change was needed. But there were a series of questions- do I imitate them? Call on my knights armour I developed while working in the jail? Remain a victim of tyrants? Or try something else?.What was crucial was that I not ever sell myself out of my kind side. To become some tough guy all the time would result in losing an important piece of who I was. A permant mask. So, I decided to create a defensive strategy along with an early warning system. It was trial and error.Predicting conflict isn't easy but if you prepare for it with everyone new in your life you react quicker. Unjustified criticism by a work colleague in a job you've just commenced is a good example and quick wit helps. Quickly replying (with a question) "so Billy, I thought James was my supervisor"?. Put Billy in his place and he becomes wary with a repeat. If he tries to justify then reply "we'll you're addressing me like I'm your student... why is that"?So, be prepared, use wit to keep replies short with greater impact and answer with questions compelling the aggressor to justify poor behaviour. The faster your reply the greater the shock value. "Hardening up" doesn't mean losing your priceless emotional/empathetic side, it means surviving better in what can be a nasty environment that has the aggressors ground rules. Defending yourself prevents ongoing torment. Set your standards early being firm, fair and reasonable without aggression. Return the ball to their court... most times they'll apologise and it's nipped in the bud. TonyWK

Sophie_M Sleep and Mental Health
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Many of us have struggled with bouts of troubled sleep, and needless to say, these periods of nocturnal restlessness can be utterly overwhelming and exhausting. Sleeplessness can filter into every aspect of our lives: our ability to be present, remem... View more

Many of us have struggled with bouts of troubled sleep, and needless to say, these periods of nocturnal restlessness can be utterly overwhelming and exhausting. Sleeplessness can filter into every aspect of our lives: our ability to be present, remember things, regulate our emotions, or to feel excited and energised… it can change the way we think and feel in such a significant and impactful way. Whether it’s due to big life changes, global pandemics, financial or work stressors, health concerns (like menopause), how much ‘you’ time you have, or even unprocessed emotions you weren’t aware were there – so many things can impact how you sleep. All of this goes to show that not only do your daily habits, routines, and experiences play a huge role in maintaining healthy sleep cycles, but so does your mental health. And frustratingly enough, your sleep also impacts and informs your mental health and daily habits. Like most things, it’s a very easy cycle to fall into. So, it’s imperative that we are gentle and compassionate with ourselves on our journey to understanding what is making us so hypervigilant and unable to rest in the first place. Studies show that journaling or mindfulness practices throughout the day, healthy food, movement, sunshine, connection with loved ones, and support from health professionals can help us to feel more grounded and able to rest. But we are curious… what has worked for you? When do you notice that your sleep is most affected vs. when you get the best rest? And is there a way you could practice regulating your nervous system more throughout the day to help promote better sleep at night? We would love to hear your thoughts! Let us know if you have any questions and be sure to check out our page on ‘Sleep and Mental Health’ for more guidance and insight into a more supported and restful night’s sleep: Sleep and mental health - Beyond Blue - Beyond Blue Looking forward to hearing from you! Kind regards, Sophie M