Staying well

Finding peace and feeding your mind

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Some members have sought tranquillity in their lives but simply don't know where to start. If they think camping is the answer I can vouch it certainly is a start. However- it can take time to wind down Eg we headed off with our caravan three days ag... View more

Some members have sought tranquillity in their lives but simply don't know where to start. If they think camping is the answer I can vouch it certainly is a start. However- it can take time to wind down Eg we headed off with our caravan three days ago. First day I vomited, then it intensified and now I'm OK, this happens every trip caused by moving out of my comfort zone sparking anxiety. Now we're settled on a riverbank but for me I need to mentally go much deeper. This might give you my meaning- WHERE A FAMILY USED TO TREAD There's something about Australia that runs a chill up and down ya backWhen we stroll along the rivers where the colonial whips would crack And those same chills would come and go like bushies about to wedLikely the sandy foundations of a shingled hut, where a family use to tread So it's not just a stroll but a magic left behindAnd the ancient owners hunting ground where the river forever windsFor there's that depth of green and gold and the need to build and settleAnd the colonial wife with grit beside a steaming kettle We didn't just build our shacks nor conquer every rocky craggWe plough virgin land behind a determined draughty nagAnd the miners cottages sprang up where Eureka found its wayAnd the swaggies filled every wagon track without a map nor means to pay For this great land of Aussie pride is a gem we embrace with lustLet's remember the gold diggers that dug but only found the dust There's something about Australia that runs a chill up and down your backWhen we stroll along the rivers where the colonial whips would crack TonyWK But we're not all poets. What I'm eluding to could include merely appreciating one breath of air, valuing the sun on your face, and steak on a campfire or the absence of humans those that don't contribute towards your well being "Staying well" also should include "seeking ideal conditions to enable you to be as well as possible then staying well" which is governed by the frequency of your vacations. Sometimes we need to feed our minds to guide it to what is an individuals ultimate peace. What is your method? Do you relate? TonyWK

Good food for better mood

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Hello everyone, I think that we all experienced how a good feed can make us feel better but we do need to keep it in healthy levels and that can spoil the good feeling. I'd like to share my experience with food and how we managed to get that great fe... View more

Hello everyone, I think that we all experienced how a good feed can make us feel better but we do need to keep it in healthy levels and that can spoil the good feeling. I'd like to share my experience with food and how we managed to get that great feeling of full stomach from hearty food while keeping our weight under control. Some time ago we started putting on weight due to health issues and just purely from getting old. I've never used to have weight problems while my partner has struggled all his life that by the way never ever bothered me. But I didn't like myself putting on weight and was worried that it could get out of hand and the earlier I'll deal with it, the easier it'll be. So we did some research on how to lose weight while still being able to get a good fix that we both love. We came across intermittent fasting and it sounded really good to us so we thought we give a gowhile adjusting it a little bit to our liking. We needed to lose weight first so had to go a bit hard on it to start with. Our target was one kilo a month, we thought that it was sustainable and not too painful. We didn't want to put ourselves off dieting. So we decided to have one big hearty meal every two days. Anything in between just to have tiny small bites just when the hunger gets too much, it could be anything. We just have a little bit of cheese, some nuts, piece of fruit, slice of bread and sometimes even a glass of water can take the edge of hunger away. It took us a year to get to the weight we were comfortable with. I lost 8 kilos, my partner lost 12 kilos. He always has to be better at everything! haha Now, we just keep our target weight, we do one hearty meal every day and have tiny meals the rest of the day to manage the hunger. When our weight goes up, we have a day off and go back to tiny meals and the weight goes down again. I love how we are able to have a good feed and get that comfortable feeling that everything is ok while keeping our weight under control. Here's couple of more tips:We bought a proper scale and got into habit of weighing ourselves every morning so we can see what food does what. One kilo fluctuation is ok but anything more than that needs to be fixed. We hunted for recipes for food that we really like. Now with the internet it is very easy to find recipes for food that we missed from childhood or anything we felt like eating. We still like our takeaway now and then but not as much as we used to. I think it would be great for everyone to share our stories, food or recipes that make us feel better. PS Please try to watch the weight as it can spoil the fun.

Where to go for help?

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HiI am in my 50’s and struggling with health issues and my mental health has raised its ugly head again. I need more support to get through a challenging time, I asked 4 weeks ago for a mental health admission. Refused acute care, and only offered a ... View more

HiI am in my 50’s and struggling with health issues and my mental health has raised its ugly head again. I need more support to get through a challenging time, I asked 4 weeks ago for a mental health admission. Refused acute care, and only offered a day programme. I did this a couple of years ago and felt like I was an outsider and didn’t belong there. The organisers didn’t ask how I was doing, and the clients ignored me. I asked again this week as I feel like I am at rock bottom, only offered the day programme again. I contacted Lifeline this week and I got very confused with the conservation. I don’t understand why I am being ignored. Sooty

Overcoming Social Anxiety and Developing Self-Love

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In this western world we live in there comes a lot of social pressures. What you should wear, how you should act, what job you should have, what you should study, where you should be life, and even views that you should have. All of these SHOULDS hav... View more

In this western world we live in there comes a lot of social pressures. What you should wear, how you should act, what job you should have, what you should study, where you should be life, and even views that you should have. All of these SHOULDS have a massive impact on us, so much so that they can take us away from who we really are in essence and create a whole lot of anxiety along the way. Have the courage to take yourself away from the SHOULDS and do what you WANT to do, be who you WANT to be, in fact more to the point be WHO YOU ARE. We have fears which drive our beliefs and affect our behaviours. There are 3 UNIVERSAL FEARS. FEAR OF NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH/BEING FOUND OUT FEAR OF NOT BELONGING FEAR OF NOT BEING LOVED The fear that comes with being WHO YOU ARE goes something like; "If I were to simply be myself, would I beloved, would I belong, would I be accepted? I can tell you that the answer is YES! When we meet someone who is living authentically and being true to themselves we find that we are drawn to these people because they give off such an energy of certainty if self and confidence. They don't turn it up for anyone or turn it down for anyone, they simply be who they are and are loved for that. One of the main reasons why we are drawn to such people is because it takes courage to put yourself out there and be who you are. I can tell you that once you experience embracing the vulnerability of being who you are you will have significant changes in your life. Some steps to take in moving forward. Ask yourself some great questions like: Who is it that I THINK I NEED to be in this world to be loved, belong and accepted? When I get anxious what is it that I'm actually worried about? (Get specific) Who do I want to be in this world? Who am I? What qualities do I love about others? (you will find you posses some of these qualities yourself) When asking these questions it is important to be 100% honest with yourself, even if you don't like the answer. Don't answer how you'd like it to sound, how you think it should sound, or how you want it to be.. answer it HOW IT IS! Develop Self-Love - look at all the positive qualities about yourself and really love them. Show yourself some compassion and give yourself a break. We are all perfectly imperfect in this world. Develop Self-Trust - Trust who you are and know that you will live true to yourself I have so much more so share guys so please ask questions

Feeling drained from work

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Hi everyone.I want to reach out on here and see if anyone is feeling the same way in regards to working full time and sometimes feeling almost ‘burnt out’ on the weekends. I finished school last year and started working full time. The first job I got... View more

Hi everyone.I want to reach out on here and see if anyone is feeling the same way in regards to working full time and sometimes feeling almost ‘burnt out’ on the weekends. I finished school last year and started working full time. The first job I got I was super excited and wanted to use it as an opportunity to gain experience. However, after a few months I really started to hate it and was crying at work, hiding in the bathroom, etc. I started a new job again recently, thinking it would be better, and although in most aspects it is, I think it’s just ‘working’ in general. Neither of these jobs have been necessarily emotionally or physically demanding, but I find on the weekend I am exhausted and depressed.Does anyone else feel like this and if so, how do you cope? It makes me worried about my future career pathway because I’ve realised I hate working a 9-5 ‘corporate’ job and it makes me second guess going to Uni just to enter into a corporate industry. I have also realised when I start to dislike something or when the excitment ends from starting something new, I feel bored and want to jump to the next big thing (this has happened in other areas of my life besides jobs).How do I stay resilient and allow myself to take on feedback from others instead of running the second I feel a problem coming?Any advice or thoughts are appreciated!

Seeking answers

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Anyone felt like you stuck in life? Doubt yourself? Felt you are useless and worthless? Don’t know what to do? Where to go? Failing in relationships failing in career failing in self improvement? I’m scared of being lost?

Self hatred and Anger snaps

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Hi, I am having trouble with anger. The anger is explosive, destructive and aimed at myself.my anger is mostly directed at inanimate objects. I’ve destroyed phones, laptops, glasses and plates. My anger is always when I’m by myself. I also hurt mysel... View more

Hi, I am having trouble with anger. The anger is explosive, destructive and aimed at myself.my anger is mostly directed at inanimate objects. I’ve destroyed phones, laptops, glasses and plates. My anger is always when I’m by myself. I also hurt myself by banging my head. I think it’s because I believe I’m useless. I have reached out and spoken to someone at BB today. This is the first time of reached out for help with anger.

How to reconnect with people and regain social interaction/make new friends/connections

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Hi im a 37 year old single man struggling to regain a social life again due to a combination of things such as depression, unemployment, addiction, jail. And life constantly being disrupted and set back time and time again. im constantly isolated fro... View more

Hi im a 37 year old single man struggling to regain a social life again due to a combination of things such as depression, unemployment, addiction, jail. And life constantly being disrupted and set back time and time again. im constantly isolated from people as i live alone. I just feel stuck in life. I wish I could find a way to meet someone and build a new life but I don’t know how.. I’ve drifted apart from all my friends and family but want to move forward and want to life a fulfilling life but struggling with not only being unemployed but poor and depressed and lonely. I’m just tired of living that way I want to live a more fulfilling life but struggling with direction not knowing where to start.

Functional Addict

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Been on drugs for 6 months now, everyday, keeping up the appearance that everything is all good ie eating, sleeping (max 6 hours a night)working, and working out, I’m only 25, I hate myself. I can’t face my friends so I make new ‘drug’ friends and wo... View more

Been on drugs for 6 months now, everyday, keeping up the appearance that everything is all good ie eating, sleeping (max 6 hours a night)working, and working out, I’m only 25, I hate myself. I can’t face my friends so I make new ‘drug’ friends and work is as you can imagine not great. I’ve been in this position before but just hadn’t been smoking for as long, any tips/advice to staying off the shit? I’m calling in sick rather frequently now just because I can’t be bothered and am too cooked, which is not what I want to be remembered as to people. I love drugs, all of them, my life has and does revolve around them, socialising without them seems weird and just boring. I need to tell my parents and friends what I’ve been doing and that I need help but there’s such a stigma with some drugs and as a male it is hard to talk about our deeper darker secrets. Any advice would be appreciated, this site seems good, hopefully someone sees this before Monday oh also my paranoia is through the bloody roof, I use drugs to combat it and trying to use drugs to get me out of this hole but it’s just easier to reload..

Anger issues

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I’ve been struggling with anger issues, and only recently I’ve decided to reach out about it, I’ve had many friendships end over one petty argument I’ve blown way out of proportion in a lot of online forums between 2022-2024, I’m worried about hurtin... View more

I’ve been struggling with anger issues, and only recently I’ve decided to reach out about it, I’ve had many friendships end over one petty argument I’ve blown way out of proportion in a lot of online forums between 2022-2024, I’m worried about hurting people verbally both online and in-person, whenever I have an outburst, I feel like I’m a passenger in my body as this terrifying out of control side of me takes over in the driver’s seat, it’s been a massive hindrance on my mental health, cognitive functions and communication skills since my early teen years Any coping strategies are welcome

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