Meditation, Manifesting, Gratitude & The Law of Attraction

[CMF]

Hi everyone,

Not sure where to start so hope I can express myself clearly and maybe with others' input we can expand on this. I'm interested in people's thoughts/ experience with meditation, manifesting, gratitude & the law of attraction. I've recently started using the Smiling Mind app to meditate when going to sleep and sometimes when feeling a little anxious, like tonight. It is something i thought i could never do as my mind rarely stops, however, with persistence, I find I enjoy it. I guess i tend to have a negative mindset which I am determined to change.I always felt uneasy about thinking positive things as i thought i would jinx myself, and that whenever I made a positive comment or felt happy it would go wrong or something negative would happen. So i refrained from allowing myself to be too happy, I guess to 'protect' myself. Recently i have been feeling happier, stronger, expressing gratitude and taking note of when things have come to me when i needed them. Coincidence, or answers to what i put out to the Universe? I like to think the latter. A work colleague one day told me to manifest something i wanted, put it out to the universe , so I'm trying. Example, recently we needed to measure the floor space at reception so we could calculate how many people we could have in at one time. I needed a tape measure, which i did not have. At that moment our handyman walked into the office. Guess what he had? I am getting into the habit of practising positive thinking instead of thinking/expecting negatives. If something 'negative' does crop up, it can be dealt with, it's not the end of the world. I look for the positive in every negative situation. I am becoming more aware of being grateful for little things, things like getting a good car park at work, a warn cosy bed, a tidy house. I feel when i am expressing gratitude I am putting positive thoughts out into the universe and I notice more positives instead of focusing on negatives. Late last week we had internet issues at work and a colleague i found a little annoying. I've been feeling very drained, agitated, negative for a few days. This morning things were not running smoothly for me. A result of my negative mind perhaps? Little things became a big deal, my morning was crap. If i look back, it wasn't really an issue, i just did things in a different order which gave me more relax time this evening. The Law of Attraction, positive thoughts, positive experiences.

What are your thoughts?

cmf x

[CMF]

Hi therising,

Interesting the card reading revealed that sis drains him. I was telling my work colleague who put me onto the card reader as she is very intone with this. She suggested sis drains him (which I don't see) but I then absorb it when I'm around them. I could be absorbing work stress from him but I doubt it as it only happens when sis is around or soon after she walks in. I tried really hard not to let it happen to. I've heard about the 'bubble" . Sis told Mr to use it against my work colleague. So 3 of us in a room. I start to feel drained, anxious, switch off. My partner then withdraws & sis just goes on like normal. I think we may need to change the seating arrangement. Square table, i sit next to him on his left, her to his right with a seat in between where her bf used to sit. If he looks up he's automatically looking at her. If i look st tge tv i have my head turned away from him. I may need to sit in the spot next to her so I am next to him & in between them. I can look directly at tv. Only problem is I'm always in-between them & they talk across me looking at each other in other situations. He knows I can't deal with 3 of us yet asked me to go for dinner I'm guessing to hear about new man together which us ok. He may have though his son was home also. He may have felt uncomfortable knowing he put me in that situation or maybe he's still not understanding the stress it causes me despite the number of times I've told him.

Cmf x

[CMF]

Of course I manifested the situation cos I kept thinking what I didn't want. I do wonder though if it happened for my partner to really see it? It was the exact scenario we spoke about recently that I'm tired of. The one he said we need a solution to but he then ignores. Sitting on the couch you could cut the air with a knife. Wonder if she picked up on it as it was first time she saw us snap at each other & me say I'll should just go home. It opened an opportunity for him to explain nicely how I feel as it was the exact scenario of her giving us no space. Do I need to bring it up again or just keep manifesting? I still have the anxiety..

Cmf

[therising]

Hi CMF

You are so incredibly observant. You sound like a natural born reader 🙂

I smile when I think if all 3 of you are sensitive to feeling to various degrees, are you all feeling your own and each other's feelings while around the table. That's a hell of a lot of feeling all happening at once. If feeling came in various 'thicknesses' of 'densities', I could imagine you could just about cut the air with a knife in that room at times. Could explain the suffocating feeling. Saging, as you mention, could help clear the air of residual feelings.

Personally, I have quite a number of different aromatherapy bottles. Each oil serves a different emotional purpose. The high vibey ones are typically the citrus based ones, like mandarin and grapefruit. The relaxing ones are typically floral, like lavender and rose. Then, of course, you've got the recipe or mixed ones. Most places that sell aromatherapy bottles have testers. I tend to test not just for smell but for emotion also. If you feel joy consider that one. If you feel pure happiness while smelling another, perhaps that's the right purchase. You could go all out and buy a few. Then, give the diffuser and the bottles as a gift to your partner for his house. Another way you could help set the mood of the house or the room the dining table's in. Just a thought. You actually get to create the mood, through your gift.

Wondering whether you're partner's dealing with a lot of mixed feelings -disloyalty to you, disloyalty to her, not wanting to upset you, not wanting to upset her and so on. Is he going through some serious inner turmoil?

If his sister is draining him, I imagine he'd naturally gravitate more toward you if you were to work on energising him. If he's excited by the thought of a particular restaurant, take him there. If he's excited by certain music, buy him the latest LP in that music (if he's got a vinyl player). Excited by jokes, come prepared. Perhaps a high energy aromatherapy oil may help. Could add it to a massage oil perhaps. Another form of aroma therapy could involve a perfume he loves you wearing, one that leads him to vibe up/become excited whenever you wear it. Maybe take him perfume shopping for you, to discover one you both love.

I find people tend to naturally gravitate more toward the folk who energise them 🙂

[CMF]

Therising,

I love your thoughts. They have an oil diffuser...hers 😒.

I love this

"Wondering whether you're partner's dealing with a lot of mixed feelings -disloyalty to you, disloyalty to her, not wanting to upset you, not wanting to upset her and so on. Is he going through some serious inner turmoil?" I'm sure he has mixed feelings but I doubt inner turmoil. He's more ignore it it'll go away. He's more concerned with her reaction to the truth than how I feel as he can't stand up to her. She controls him. Another reason I'm not comfortable her being around us cos she's watching/listening & she'll be in his ear. We have no privacy at his house if she's there. She's always around us. We had a disagreement last night & she was there to see it. She would have said something to him for sure. There's something I don't trust about her in that regard.

Gravitating...he always gravitates toward her. I guess cos he feels the negativity from me when she's around.

I'm also aware he was not really comfortable with her sleeping at this guys house after knowing him 2 minutes. He told me he was shocked but he's old fashioned at times. He may be thinking she's going have another guy sleeping at their house already. Hopefully she'll keep going to his for a while to keep it quiet as it's so soon. She hardly knows him but she's going be 42 & wants kids so pressure is on.

Cmf x

[therising]

Hi CMF

Of course, if there's one thing controlling people can't tolerate it's losing control. The second they feel things slipping out of their control, the harder they'll work to regain it. Do you think this is the case with his sister? Is she a bit of a chess player type, who manages every move, while carefully managing her opponents? Can you just feel her thinking 'Okay, your move!'. Could she be a bit of a strategist? Has she got you playing a game you just don't want to play? Are you possibly playing a game with a tactical narcissist? A bit heavy. Maybe she's not a narcissist at all.

It's so tough when you're with someone who picks 'easy' over a challenge. 'Easy' may serve the person who chooses this but it can prove seriously hard for those around them. May have mentioned, my husband's typically like this. He's a 'I have enough challenges at work as it is' kind of person. My response to this these days is, to sum it up, 'Okay dude, you just sit back and let me face all the challenges' (sarcasm). This is one of the reasons our kids are so detached from him. As you can imagine, with a 16yo boy and a 19yo gal there are a few challenges to manage here and there. Btw, these kids are legendary in my opinion. Doesn't make sense as to why he wouldn't want to interact with them more. I know I sound biased but they really are amazing, beautiful brilliant people. They're 2 of my greatest most inspiring teachers in life. We thrive on great mutual respect. I know I sound a bit like a ranting cow when I say I'm tempted to demand my husband pull his head our of his rear end so he can see the light. Hope that got a smile out of you 🙂

I think, sometimes, we can be partnered with someone who doesn't like to feel the more challenging emotions/feelings. Kind of like 'Oooh, I like that feeling (happiness) but no, don't lead me to feel that one. I just don't want to feel it and you can't make me'. With their proverbial hands over their ears with a 'La, la, la, la, la, I can't hear you', they're happy just to feel all the pleasant stuff. Again, a bit of a rant, 'Okay sweetie, don't worry, I won't make you feel anything you don't want to feel. Let me just go ahead and feel all that sh*t for you'. Sorry about that. I'm not really vibing terribly high in love at the moment. Actually, yes I am; this is self love. I think sometimes we gotta love our self enough to say 'Stop! I deserve better than this'. Maybe this is the test we face sometimes, without knowing it.

[CMF]

Hi therising,

wow you sum everything up perfectly. Yes def needs to be in control. Her ex cheated ( he is a dog)they ended officially less than a month ago so she's posting all over social media straight away how much fun she's having. She's met a guy on line & already spent a night at his place after knowing him 1 week & having 1 date. She is wealthy, successful, dominant but can't be alone.

Your hubby sounds like my partner. He lives in lala land where everyone is nice &everything's awesome. I'm pretty 'real' which he loves but my honesty is a challenge & yes I think he's def under pressure to fix the sis situation now. Aaahh I digress from the topic.

So I need to get manifesting again, bring the LOA back into play. I need to keep manifesting for her to happily move on. For her hew man to want to be with her,not her, her bro & kids. I need to manifest for her to move into her own space & out of mine. I need to put myself in the position I want to be in.

Bring it on!

Cmf

[therising]

Hi CMF

I love your determination 🙂

Do you have a form of meditation for manifestation? Do you meditate on particular imagery and focus on bringing this to life, for example?

[CMF]

Hey therising

No I don't. I haven't quite matched meditation. How do I meditate for manifestation?

Cmf x

[therising]

Hi CMF

Not quite sure how it's done, so I googled it. Haven't got time to look into it at the moment but, at a quick glance, there are a number of sites that came up. As wonder has the tendency to get the better of me, I'll be revisiting when a bit of free time opens up. Will be interesting to see 🙂

[missep123]

Hi everyone!

I love the concept of manifestation! If anything it puts me in a good mindset and gives me a lot of hope! Maybe subconsciously it helps me achieve what I want to achieve by guiding me when I'm making decisions in my life. I want to try meditating for manifestation! That sounds like a great idea.