Hi blondguy Paul
"Crying for long periods of time releases oxytocin and endogenous opioids, otherwise known as endorphins. These feel-good chemicals can help ease both physical and emotional pain. Once the endorphins are released, your body may go into somewhat of a numb stage. Oxytocin can give you a sense of calm or well-being.."
taken from healthline.com
We have our own INBUILT hormones for healing! HOW GOOD IS THAT?
Ah denial my long lost friend.. I told it to get lost entirely this year!
Living in denial is how we knew to cope at the time. We usually ONLY know this once we're coming out of denial. IT'S OKAY that we used denial! We survived, ALL GOOD.
So us acknowledging our denial is actually our growth towards healing!
I totally agree Paul, it's darned hard work dealing with our MH issues, going through shedding old habits & thought patterns, seeing Drs, Counsellors, Psychs.
It's HARD but so is building a house lol. We EXPECT THAT to be hard work.
We should expect healing ourselves to be hard work too.
We'd take pride in seeing the house we built.
We can be proud of doing whatever it takes to heal ourselves.
Just a point on the Drs / Psychs you mentioned.... some DON'T understand us lol!
I've been seeking help for decades. It was only a few years ago that a Psych said "Complex PTSD" to me. Then every one I've spoken to since has said same. I wasn't in denial about the diagnosis. I just didn't know about the treatment. Some said there was no cure so I believed it.
NB: don't believe everything you're told!
The PTSD got worse until I couldn't cope early this year. Plus dissociation was observed which I had no clue about either. Luckily my psych friend saw it. SHE told me to get Specialist Trauma Psychology.
I did.
5 sessions went well. I did beyond ALL my homework.
I learnt how to do Exposure Therapy on my own BUT learnt alot without her help eg having someone with me to co-regulate me in potentially triggering activities. Now I can do those things on my own.
Sadly as what's often happened in the past... the Psych had given me all she had... but wanted to keep me for research purposes (my recovery had been so swift, not complete but fast)... then she shamed me. Tut tut.
At the realisation she was using me for data & she had no clue about DV so attempted to shame me.... nope.
I was done.
I still have my Counsellor.
Trust your gut.
Love your work Paul!
EM
