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[SourceShield]

Greetings!

This post is about LIMITING-BELIEFS, or as me and my brother Matt now call them, Old Thought Thoughts - OTT.

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This post will most likely not appeal to many people, because I am writing about our beliefs that we have about life and ourselves, that we all have had for much of our life.

Our beliefs are personal, and yet oddly the 'same' as well.

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There is a school of thought that teaches us that when we identify the OTT i.e. I am unlovable.

Relate to the OTT, rather than from it.

We can then release the attachment to the OTT, as well as the aversion to the OTT.

For example -

A child is told that they are no good, useless and worthless, every other day.

-sadly, this is a story often told, by many.

As this child grows a set of OTT have been programmed into the mind-body of the now grown adult-child.

I am no good.

I am useless.

I am worthless.

etc etc etc

The adult-child now has an attachment to the OTT.

But also you would see an aversion to those OTT as well.

I am no good <- the attachment.

And, I hate that I am no good <- the aversion. The judgement for having the OTT in the first place, keeps us attached to the OTT.

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Not all beliefs are limiting.

All beliefs are fluid.

They are mutable - liable to change, as all things in existence are!

But...

How do we release the OTT?

Thats what we're most interested in!.

I am going to share a few things of how I am learning to release all of the OTT that once ruled my life, and would love to read yours as well!.

1) Refer to the OTT being in the past. If we keep on affirming the OTT in the present moment, it stays in the present moment. By writing and talking about the OTT being in the past, youre correcting the memory. REWIRE!

2) I AUGMENT positive memories. Whatever they are, whenever they happened. This is why I actively look for things to be thankful and grateful for. Appreciation, heals! And thats now science...if youre interested in the research about this, let me know!

3) I have learned to ask for help, and to RECEIVE it graciously, whenever it comes to me. And, it always does.

4) I SMILE and LAUGH more. Theres research for this too!

5) I have changed my eating habits. I EAT WELL now. I am now on the Guts and Psychology Syndrome foodplan GAPS. I used to be obese. No more.

6) I EXPRESS in healthy ways - dance, music, write..

7) I take time out to LOVE - my family, friends, my dog bundy, nature..

REMEMBERING to LOVE is a biggie!.

And, whatta 'bout you?...

[FeyChildLovelylicious]

Hey DD. You're so kind for asking. I am okay today. Was a little blue this morning but I'm okay now. Thank you for taking the time to ask. Everyone on this thread is so kind. I think I need to do more gardening!!!!!.

Hello to all the other lovelies here too.

Mwah!

Love

FeyChilde

XOX

[Kazzl]

Morning all, happy Sunday.

Mwah to you too lovely Faye and to DD, great to see you.

This is a just a quick post before I go Do Stuff, to let you all know I've started a new thread called Helpful books and resources, under Staying Well, so we have a place to collect the titles and info on books we've found useful in our 'disorderly' lives, as Kaitoa says.

I started it because I've noticed lots of people mention books etc in their posts but unless you remember where you saw it you might not find it again. So hopefully we can encourage people to also put them on that thread.

I reckon our crew here might have some books to suggest? If so, please contribute.

Love to all

Kaz

xx

[SourceShield]

You're a true Champion, Kaz!.

Great idea.

MuchLove to you.

...Love your style...

Hey Folks,

I'm just about to get ready for my day too.

Last day of the cricket.

It's been a lot of fun meeting new people, and I've been practising...OTT Energy Releasing, or OTTER! <-LAM

OTTER or OTT Energy Releasing, is what when we walk our walk and talk our talk, with all our 'stuff' going on.

It helps.

Essentially I'm talking about 'healthy boundaries', and "softening our edges" to some of the boundaries, as much as we can, as Tara Brach would put it.

We have these emotional-boundaries in place because they 'help us' to feel and stay safe.

But, even our boundaries need a regular clean out as well!.

Recently, an emotional-boundary of mine was shaken.

One that was set in place as a child.

Derived from issues relating to "sexualisation and abuse".

The emotional-scars are very deep, and etched into my memory-banks.

When a boundary is shaken like that, it's important to stay as mindful as one can.

If it's a 'major border' - that's attached to much trauma, remembering "The Basics", is essential.

This is when we put 'into practise', all the 'breathing' and 'body scanning' and 'awareness' and 'creativity'.

This is why having some sort of daily regime, practise, journal, diary...whatever it is for you...in place, remembering to include ALL that we have going on in our life.

The disorders, dysfunctions, diseases, and depression etc etc etc.

I must include ALL that I have going on in my life, for my life to be complete.

I can either complain and moan about it or I can take full responsibility and go from there.

Making the most of all opportunities to promote holistic-health, and well-being, and loving-kindness and true-freedom, that come my way.

(Don't get me wrong there is a huge difference between a helpful and healthy 'debrief' with a trusted friend/s and/or trusted professional/s, and dwelling on the negative the whole time, which is always unhelpful, ultimately!)

Misery may love company but it does not get mine!.

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OTT - "I'm Unsafe."

NTT - "In This Moment, Is This Still True? The OTT Feels Real Because I Am Feeling it, But Is This OTT True For Me Now, In This Moment?."

NPT - "ALL OTT Are Just Unhelpful Thoughts That I Can Release The Attachment To. I Trust Myself Now. I Create My Own Emotional-Safety. I Take My Lead From All The HELPFUL Thoughts In My Mind. I Am Safe. All Is Well."

...and now I activate NPT!...

MuchLove&Peace.

Kaitoa.

[Shred1106]

Hi all

Great idea Kaz!

My OTT - I will never be good enough

My NPT - I am able to accomplish some things now that I could not a month ago

[SourceShield]

Hey everyone!

When I was eight years of age.

I had a near death experience.

My appendix had become inflamed.

I remember waking up with an intense pain in my stomach.

I had no idea what was happening but all I knew was that I couldn't move.

I could barely scream out for Mum.

Mum didn't believe me, and told me to get out of bed.

I couldn't move!.

So she yelled at me.

I still couldn't move!!.

Took Mum about an hour to realise that I really couldn't move!!!.

They carried me out to the car, and drove me to the hospital.

When we got there, they put me in a wheelchair, and sent me off to see the Drs.

They did their thing, and quickly realised that I needed to be operated on, immediately.

I remember being on the hospital bed, with the mask on, and the nurse telling me to count from 10 to 0 slowly, and then I would be asleep.

I didn't fall asleep.

I heard the Nurse tell the Dr this, and they said to give me a stronger dose of the gas.

They did that.

I didn't fall asleep.

I think that I was 'holding on' - I didn't want to miss a thing!.

I wasn't scared.

Just curious.

Always curious.

I just wanted to ask the Drs some questions.

I was born asking questions!.

And that's when I floated above my body.

I saw the Drs and nurses doing their thing.

I remember floating in warm, white, Light. From the 'inside looking out', I felt safe.

Though, from the 'outside looking in', it was a different story - when I was on the hospital bed, I vomited whilst I was under the anesthetic.

The Drs were completely stumped, because I shouldn't have been able to vomit whilst on the anesthesia.

But, in my 'peaceful slumber' there on the hospital bed, I vomited, and nearly choked to my death, all whilst they were operating on the appendicitis.

I was told this by my Grandfather, when I woke.

He was genuinely glad to see me open my eyes.

When I was 'asleep', I remember feeling truly powerful and yet serene all at the same time.

I remember floating as if I was in the clouds.

Then I remember falling.

And then I awoke.

Self-limiting beliefs want us to focus on the limitations.

But, if you live a 'disorderly' life, at times, like I do, then we've been born with some of these limitations.

And, some happenings are just beyond our control.

In my waking moments now, I accept serenity in any form that it greets me.

In the simplicity and in the complexity of life, and living.

I had forgotten and now I have remembered.

Be well and joyful.

Peace.

Kaitoa

[FeyChildLovelylicious]

Hi there Sourcey Face.

You have such a wonderful way with words. I feel quite honoured to have read your post, just now. I hope that's okay to say that, because that's how I really feel. It's interesting because everyone writes for different reasons. I feel that you write to express just how it was for you, how it has been, and how it is for you. That's quite unique. I "feel" what you write. Sometimes that can be really challenging because you "write from the heart". Sometimes the words you write I feel very deep within me.

I've had two near drowning experiences. Once I fell into the water, I must have been seven years old. My uncle jumped into get me. Then my aunty and uncles growled me for falling into the water. The second was at the beach. Knocked down by wave after wave. I swallowed water. When I managed to get out of the water, I looked around and there was no one there. My family weren't watching me swim. They didn't pay much attention to me. No one knew what had just happened to me.

After each experience I felt as if I was just wrong for existing. I can now see how the self limiting beliefs were in place, right from an early age. I guess this may be the case for all of us. I feel that we really pay a huge price for carrying the OTT around in our heads for as long as we do. It is the attachment to these thoughts that is what is most important, to let go. I understand that. Accepting that though, is a different story. But as you say, "this isn't a race to the end". I am encouraged by the way you seem to be working through letting go. It gives me great hope to think that I can if you can. I feel that if one person can learn to do something, than I can as well. I appreciate as many of your tips and suggestions, so please keep the coming!.

My basics:

I do some form of exercise everyday

I do my best to make the healthy food choice. But sometimes, I just eat the french fries because I love french fries. And potato crisps as well. I love savoury foods!. I've never been much into the sweets but when I do get the cravings, I just eat the chocolate!!!. I agree with you though Mr Source, limiting sucrose and high fructose corn syrupy foods is smart. Do you know much about "lipopolysaccharides" Mr Source?

I do my best to sleep at least 5 to 6 hours a night.

I make sure to keep my relationship with the Drs healthy and sane!!!

And, I have a daily "fairy" ritual, that helps me to stay happy too.

With loads of joyful bubbles!!.

Love.

FeyChilde

XOX

[Kazzl]

Hiya lovely Fey and everyone here.

Not much to say for myself today (well, it's early) but just wanted to pop in and say hi and hope everyone is OK today and things go well for you.

I'll leave some hugs.

Cheers

Kaz

xxxxx

[SourceShield]

Evening Folks!

Fey - I'm so glad that you are still here with us. Thanks for being you...in all your fairyliciousness!

Kaz - Big hugs for you too!.

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--The Basics--

I feel that most of us have a relatively good idea of what the 'basics' are.

I imagine that there will be many similarities of what you all may classify as one of your 'basics', and what I classify as a basic as well.

But there would also be things that you and I do that are very much so personal to our experience, like, visiting the Dr or Psych etc.

I'd like to focus on WHY I do the basics.

I meditate not because Buddha told me to meditate but because I feel good when I meditate.

I eat well not because some celebrity tells me to eat well but because I feel good when I eat well.

I do the basics not because Oprah or Anthony Robbins tell me to but because I feel good as I do them.

There's an obvious theme here!.

That which we call 'good feelings' on the outside, is just, all the biochemistry on the inside working in perfect alignment.

To fully appreciate this, one must include ALL of one's stuff.

All the anxiety, all the angry moments, all the narcissistic moments.

Include it all.

Include all the disorders, and dysfunctions, and diseases etc etc etc, include it all in your Big Picture, for all of that, make up a big part of who you are, but it is just a part of you.

A part that needs much respect, and care and loving-kindness.

For me that's the major depressive episodes, the addictive personality, the reliving of traumatic memories of stressors from the past, the anxiety, the eating disorders, the loneliness and sadness and grief and suffering, I must include it ALL in my Big Picture, and make the most of my life, from there.

I was born with an intense addiction to sucrose-sugar, for example.

I don't have diabetes but eating well, isn't just a trendy thing that I do because someone told me to eat well.

I eat well, because HEALTH and WELLBEING are now paramount.

I do all these 'things' because I feel better, healthier and happier, when I am connected to Truth, Love, Wellness and Presence.

1) Master The Breath.

2) Stay Hydrated.

3) Eat Well.

4) Rest Well.

5) Move and Exercise.

6) Connect To Spiritfulness.

7) Assist and support others on their journey.

😎 Remember to Love more.

9) Express cognisant creativity more.

10) Allow more Joyfulness into your life.

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NPT - "I love Life, And Life Loves Me"

...and now we activate!...

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MuchLove&Joy!.

Kaitoa.

[Shred1106]

Morning all

My OTT - I am not worthy

My NPT - I am doing all I can

On another note - thanks to everyone in these forums who has helped me in many different ways to continue my life journey. Off tomorrow on my trip so best get on with the packing.

Speak to you all in the New Year... stay safe and remember - people DO care

[SourceShield]

MuchLove to you, Shred!.

Have a fantastic holiday.

Have a safe flight.

Remember to take it, one breath at a time!.

You can do this.

You are worthy of health and happiness.

I will be thinking of you tomoz, and when I pray in the morning, I will ask for an extra portion of courage to be sent your way.

Thank you for being here with us too, Shred.

Believe this, or not, but your presence here as helped me to better understand my own journey, even more, so thank you Shred.

Have fun.

Be as well, as you can possibly well!.

MuchRespect&Kindness

Kaitoa