Facing the emotional brink

[white knight]

If you are reading this you have likely been there or your partner has. It is when your emotions, due to a situation, slips down the control slide. At the bottom of that slide is tears, desperation and hopelessness. That feeling is almost indescribable. Some feel, when in this condition, that there is no future, no present and no past. You just dont care.

I attended a therapist a few years back. He was clever and direct. I told him that 2 days prior I was in such a state. He said what were you going to do? I told him that I have, when in that state, a strong urge to walk into the bush away from ALL human beings and just survive day to day "in the wild". He then looked into my eyes closer than usual and said firmly "you would last about 3 months". I took that as I would not survive in any living way due to my inability to care for myself and my depression. It was after that meeting I strived to find the happy medium between a large population town (for me that was 4000 people upwards) and "the bush" My destiny became a town of 200 people 15 minutes drive from that town of 4000 people with all its facilities.. .I found the right balance.

Why is this so important to this thread? Because there were some issues in life that caused me to regularly find myself in that desperate, sorrowful and deep emotional position. I was unstable.

My point being, that ones decisions in life and lifestyle can make a bearing on your overall happiness thereby downloading to less times you find yourself at that "emotional brink". How important is this?  Well that emotional brink can take you to your own demise...its that important. We simply cannot underestimate the seriousness of maintaining control of our emotions to a realistic level. We cannot

lose total control. And to maintain control we have to introduce a plan so you and others aren't hurt in the long term. Use search to read the thread - think b4 you act

The best time for this plan is when you are mentally sound. Accept that another bout will come and plan your tack on it. eg I will not walk away from my home, I will write down my feelings, I will keep my voice low volume and not yell at others, I will allow time to pass because in time things settle.

You will put strategies in place not to feel emotional but so those emotions dont lead you to a place that you shouldn't be. A place that would also

hurt those you love. We plan many things in our lives. We should plan what we do when we arrive at our emotional lows.

Tony WK

[Neil_1]

Hi everyone

I'd just like to thank Tony for providing this deep and valuable post.

He's provided also examples of what can be done by "us" when we find ourselves on the brink after we've slipped to a very low point in our lives.  "To not walk away;   but to stay and work through it, by writing down your feelings - which is a kind of taking control of your feelings.  By writing them down, you see them on a piece of paper and then you can begin to deal with them.

Having them flying around in your head, cannoning into other emotional thoughts is where we can suffer further;  because you're flicking from one emotion and one thought to another as they bounce to the forefront of your mind.

But if we can somehow harness them - and kind of disempower them - writing them down and then working through what exactly it is that's causing this nasty spot that you're in.

Also keeping your voice down and not yelling - keeping control of your emotions, in fact, placing them in the background and speaking quietly and calmly.

And then of course, as I hope that we all know - give everything time - because time never stops and it continues to move along.  And given time, the power, the hurt, the emotional low that you may have been feeling will ease.  I'm not saying that it will ease up totally (sometimes it might), but I think in our instances, any kind of easing up is better than nothing.

Great post Tony.

Would also love to hear others thoughts on this.

Neil