Coping Strategies

[Belinda24]

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This isolation has prompted me to go back in time and access some silly little coping things I used to do about 25 years ago when I had a breakdown.

I had the BEST counsellor EVER. She knew that overloading me with psycho babble was too much for me during the ACUTE crisis stage. We got down to the nitty gritty once I no longer panicked

So here are a few SIMPLE "tools" she suggested to help me cope:

* One Day at a Time kept me calmer cos I knew tomorrow was another NEW day

* One foot in the past and one foot in the future meant I was piddling on the present 😆😆😆 Love this one!!

* Gave me a "God Box". If I became obsessed with a repetitive thought or fear, I'd write it down and put it into my God Box, then GET OUT OF MY OWN WAY

* I am not remotely religious, but I've had enough evidence in my life to reassure me that something or someone takes care of me all the time. So, I "LET GO, LET GOD". I've found this to be very freeing at times. Takes the weight off my shoulders so I can get on with my day

* She reminded me that 95% of EVERYTHING I ever feared over my lifetime (I'm 70), NEVER happened. This has been absolutely true 😊😊😊

* The two questions that keep me STUCK and highly FEARFUL are:

WHAT IF.......... (future predicting)

IF ONLY............(past regrets)

* Everything happens for a reason. My belief is that COVID-19 is happening because the western world has been upside down for decades and something drastic was needed to get us back on track to being a society that puts people before profit

* We need to go back to loving people and USING money, instead of the opposite, which has been the status quo

* I hope we do things differently once this crisis is over. Cos repeating the SAME behaviour and expecting a different result is just plain NUTS

I actually feel so much better just having typed this post. Cheers everyone. 🌹🌹

THIS TOO SHALL PASS ✅✅✅✅✅

[Ggrand]

Hello Belinda...

Welcome to the forums..

Thank you for sharing what has worked for you..

I like the idea of the God box...I usually just write my unhealthy thoughts into a journal, with the journal, I suppose that every time I go to write my thoughts in their, my other thoughts are right their in front of me to see....which reminds me of how many unhealthy thoughts I have had...I think putting them in a box and not being able to see what else you’ve written before is a great idea..

Your post will be very beneficial to many people here..me included..So thank you again lovely Belinda..

I hear a lot of times that things happen for a reason...I think maybe somethings do happen for a reason.but not everything...my thoughts only...

I am so happy that you have been able to come out the other side of the depressive tunnel...Well done dear Belinda...It’s always beautiful and so inspiring to hear that it is possible to overcome our depression....

I love your way of thinking..it shows that your a beautiful caring person...and I like so much with your words about what we should do and how we treat people better after coronavirus has left us...

Thank you for your words of inspiration...

Sending you, my care, love and hugs..💜🦋🤗..

Grandy...Yes this too will pass..🕊🌱..