dear Tony, once again another great post.
So the question is what comes first confidence or patience, well patience creates confidence, but they still go hand in hand, so is this right?
The old saying 'patience is a virtue', as I remember my grandmother (?) saying, but can also be found 'by once caught twice shy', maybe we have learnt the trigger that actually caused it all.
Patience takes time and a great deal of effort, which you can never buy, it can't be, so it's not for sale anywhere, not in the shops, not at a market, not on the computer, because you have to learn how to gain this. maybe because you have been burnt by a bad experience, but it's also learnt by thinking logically and then making a sensible decision, knowing the outcome.
But we can't forget that once we do have patience, our confidence well and truly kicks in, why, because we can tell a young mind that if they do it their way the repercussions will be disastrous and they should do it this way, and whether they take our advise or have to literally do it the hard way is up to them, but it's a lesson for them to learn.
As Amber has said self esteem and self worth are needed for confidence, however someone with depression their experience which also extends to their confidence is held down, the dog is sitting on it, so they don't give a damn, they don't care, so their ability to pass on their wealth of knowledge and past experience lays by their side.
Sure they have had patience, and when they are depressed they still do, only because they don't give a damn, and want to be left out of it entirely.
Is this correct or has anybody done the opposite. Geoff.
