Can anyone recommend any self help books etc for motivation/setting goals?

girl_interrupted · ‎17-11-2016

I wasn't sure where to post this, but I figured it fits into the category of staying well/what works for others. So I'm wondering, does anyone have some advice/books/forums/site suggestions on building confidence, time management and goal setting? Coz frankly I suck at all three (among other things). I have tried a number of different websites and books/techniques but I figure some of you have some ideas that might be better than what I've already tried. I guess a part of it is wanting to change and doing what's necessary to make those changes. Change is really hard! I'm open to suggestions. Thanks guys 🙂

girl_interrupted · ‎18-11-2016

Thank you Zeal! I will definitely have a look at procrastination - I'm the queen of procrastinating lol. I'll check out those websites too. 🙂

girl_interrupted · ‎18-11-2016

Thanks Nikkir,

I'll check those out. Toni Robbins is definitely very motivating! I've watched one of his seminars online (thru Netflix of course). That's a great start for me. Cheers

girl_interrupted · ‎18-11-2016

Thank you Carol!

My time management skills really suck lol. I think it's all linked to my depression though, with the lack of motivation etc. Gotta start somewhere I guess... baby steps. 🙂

SourceShield · ‎18-11-2016

Hey GI!

I totally hear you re: confidence.

I used to be a professional performing artist...then had a major 'breakdown'...after that my confidence was non-existent...BUT - I feel that I am ready to get back out there, and me and the mutt - the one in the pic, are gonna do some street theatre and busking together!

I've decided that the only way for me to beat the 'nerves' is to just...DO IT!.

Maybe its because Im gonna be 40yrs in a couple months but I feel that I cant go on like this, and let my life just slip by without me being fully active in it!

I love singing and dancing and entertaining people and performing...it can be used as a form of CreativityTherapy!

So, Im going to 'therapise' myself on this one...and expose myself to those 'nerves'...bugger it!

I can do this!

And, so can you!

BabySteps, okay?

I know that may sound cliche, but you dont get it...until you get it...we've been through a lot.

Depression can really ravage the body-mind connection, and its just not possible to 'just get over it', like people used to believe.

Depression etc, are really debilitating.

But, the way I see it is...

...I go from not knowing 'the dance'...to knowing 'the dance' - whats in-between, a lot of practice, grit and determination.

You ALWAYS feel silly and stupid at the start - when youre learning a new routine...thats just how it is...for all of us.

But, practice pays off, and eventually, the muscle-memory kicks-in...and youre dancing like a pro.

So too is it true for all things in life...

We go from not being confident, to being confident...

Whats in-between?

Grit

Patience

Practice

Sweat

Tears

Determination

Perseverance

Revelation

Epiphany

...and eventually...

We feel a lot more...whatever it is that we are seeking.

I believe in you, and as mentioned, I have some creativity tips handy too!

If ever you need a 'ConfidenceBuilding Buddy' - count me in!

I'm there.

MuchLove

girl_interrupted · ‎18-11-2016

Just Googled DBT by Marsha... Found this workbook on DBT. So far it's great. I've done some CBT and ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) by Russ Harris: The happiness trap, the confidence gap, the reality slap. These are all great too. I think I just really need a workbook rather than just trying to apply stuff I've read. Gotta be more proactive! Thanks again. And check these out by Russ Harris, if you haven't already.

Cheers, 🙂

girl_interrupted · ‎18-11-2016

Wonderful post! Thank you SS. I've decided to try and get back out there (have isolated for so long) and I've enlisted myself in a couple of meetups in my area. FearFactor: 100/10. Gotta try. Needless to say I'm scared shtless lol. I tend to join stuff and back out at the last minute, so let's see how I go this time. Turning 40 is a wonderful milestone. It's a very reflective time - looking back on what you've achieved, etc. I think most of us put too much pressure on ourselves to achieve certain things by a certain age.. I was petrified of turning 40 and then when it actually happened I kinda felt reborn (pity it didn't last lol). But at the time it was a great opportunity for me to reach some goals. I started a women's social group, got fit, got social, got out there.. 40 seems like a lifetime ago, (although it was only a couple of years ago). I wish I could be that confident person again (in hindsight, I think I was just manic at the time lol)Enjoy this time of your life - you'll never be 40 again!

BballJ · ‎18-11-2016

Hi Girl_interrupted,

I listen to a lot of motivation videos from YouTube, people make many of them regarding different topics. I love ones about changing to a positive mindset, achieving success etc.

This is one of my favourites below (They use movie clips as the background with the voice overs of many motivational speakers)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UhD3_dxKNd8

My best for you,

Jay

SourceShield · ‎18-11-2016

Hey GI,

YES - I get on MeetUp as well...I was running LaughterMeditation Workshops through MeetUp, but with the move to Melbourne coming up, I have slowed down on all that for now.

I feel that in many, many, many ways...I am getting 'better' as I age.

Like a fine wine!

Still have a few limiting-beliefs to work through...but I am encouraged by your words, and many others that post to the forums as well.

What is age...but a number?!?!?.

I'd like to personally encourage you to just...GO FOR IT!.

I have an 'audition' on Monday, as a performer, and as an Anti-Bullying Coach with Incursions R US.

I am nervous....but too bad for me!

I am going do this...and I can coach myself through this!

Anytime you need a little extra support with all that you aspire to do in your life...just know that I get it, and that I am here for ya!

PeaceOut.

SubduedBlues · ‎19-11-2016

Girl Interrupted

What would you do if, out of the blue, your life turned upside down? What if you went from being a happy, healthy, normal, child, and suddenly became an anxious, depressed, twitchy mess of devastating proportion? This is exactly what happened to Stuart Ellis-Myers. Stuart has used the life lessons learned through years of battling this often emotionally crippling disorder to help countless others to overcome their own challenges and fears. His insight and humanity have enabled him to share his own, often painful, experiences in such a way as to offer a real, usable, methodology for overcoming the many pitfalls of modern life. The countless physical and psychological manifestations of the high stress lives we all lead are made clearer to understand and easier to bear through his simple and effective system of positive change. It has worked for him. It can work for you.

I met Stu on his book tour through Australia last year, we have since become good friends. We have Tourette's Syndrome, and his book mentions a lot about this, but it is also a wonderful self help book for people with Anxiety and Depression. It helped me immensely at a time when I really needed someone to show me the way.

Often in life it is the subtle changes of the unexpected that have the most profound changes in our lives. The indirect affects us more than the direct. His book "Unstoppable" is most likely the best indirect and subtle change you are looking for.

SB

girl_interrupted · ‎19-11-2016

Thanks Jay! I'll check it out. I like random things on Youtube. often come across the funniest and most bizarre stuff lol. Cheers, GI