Break up help

[Ashkl]

Hi, I have been suffering with anxiety and depression for half my life. So it’s pretty much all I know. At the moment I am currently struggling with letting go and moving on from a break up. He broke up with me about 3 months ago, I loved him but it was not a healthy relationship. I am struggling to let go, I don’t know if it is because I’m scared to be alone or maybe I’m worried that I won’t be able to find anyone who can handle my mental health issues...any help or advice would be awesome thank you. This break up and previous ones have left me feeling worthless and hard to love and like I am a burden. And it makes me scared that I will ever find someone who will love me and I really would like to find that

[Alana_H]

Hi Ashkl,

It sounds really hard for you right now, on one hand you are able to see where the relationship wasn't good for you, but on the other hand you really cared about that person. Break ups are can be a blow to anyones self esteem but when you have a mental illness it can make it fee much worse. Did you feel like this after your previous relationship ended? Was there something that helped you feel less hopeless?

I wonder if you are getting any support right now? It might be worth increasing that support as seems like you're saying that these low feelings from the breakup aren't getting better. If you feel like you have no one to talk to about it you can call the beyondblue helpline on 1300 22 4636.

Also, I know that you've probably heard this enough, but I'll say it anyway (feel free to ignore if you're sick of it). People with mental illness can be in strong and healthy relationships! You sound like your willing to put yourself out there, despite having set backs and that's really brave.

If you feel comfortable, let me know how your going.

Alana_H