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Just_Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

Kazzl Helpful books and resources
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Hi everyone Members often refer in their posts to books and other resources that have helped them. This thread is a place to list those books so all members can find them easily. The titles might include scholarly, mass market and self-help books, sp... View more

Hi everyone Members often refer in their posts to books and other resources that have helped them. This thread is a place to list those books so all members can find them easily. The titles might include scholarly, mass market and self-help books, specialist websites or blogs, podcasts, vodcasts or print or online journals or magazines. Please note BB has a list of websites and resources under Get Help, so maybe check there first for online resources. (Also note that we cannot include live links to online resources.) To make things easy to find, please put the category of the content first in bold, then the title of the book and then, if you want, a brief comment. Please note that anything listed here reflects the member's views only. Publications and other resources are not necessarily endorsed by beyondblue. Happy reading!

Chris_B Worried about other users - how are we all doing?
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Hi everyone, I thought I'd check in to see how everyone is doing; while the nature of these forums is as a place of support, and it feels good to help others, we need to make sure our own welfare is looked after too. Sometimes reading the experiences... View more

Hi everyone, I thought I'd check in to see how everyone is doing; while the nature of these forums is as a place of support, and it feels good to help others, we need to make sure our own welfare is looked after too. Sometimes reading the experiences of others can be validating, because we feel 'we've been there', but sometimes it can also be a trigger for bringing up unpleasant feelings. I've started this thread so we can have a constructive discussion about helping others and helping ourselves - how do you cope when you read about others in distress? Do you have a self-care plan in place, and if so, what is it? Really looking forward to hearing from you all.

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Sophie_M Support for Aussie Farmers and Rural Communities
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Droughts can affect families not just financially, but physically, mentally and emotionally. We understand there are many of you feeling isolated right now more than ever. Please use this as a safe and respectful space to seek support from each other... View more

Droughts can affect families not just financially, but physically, mentally and emotionally. We understand there are many of you feeling isolated right now more than ever. Please use this as a safe and respectful space to seek support from each other and share your journeys. The beyondblue website has information on how to support yourself and others, as well as information about the signs and symptoms of anxiety and depression. This includes: Looking after yourself after a disaster Taking care of yourself after retrenchment or financial loss Information about depression and anxiety Checklist to understand whether you might be experiencing anxiety or depression Types of professionals you can visit to seek support for your mental health beyondblue is here for all those affected by droughts and would encourage anyone who may be in distress to contact our Support Service on 1300 22 4636 or online via https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support

anon143 *Trigger Warning* (bodyweight) Looking for weight loss encouragement/support 😊
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I am heavily over weight, extremely unfit & according to my BMI I am obese (yikes, even saying that really makes me feel ashamed). My journey will not be easy, or quick, I understand that and I accept that. Ideally I want to lose at least 25 kg befor... View more

I am heavily over weight, extremely unfit & according to my BMI I am obese (yikes, even saying that really makes me feel ashamed). My journey will not be easy, or quick, I understand that and I accept that. Ideally I want to lose at least 25 kg before I will consider myself happy but I also don’t want it to become a habit that I obsess over & relapse again like I have in the past if I have an off day which will turn into an off week & then every excuse will come up until I stop all together. What are some things that keep you motivated to staying healthy? I admit today I had a very good day, I stuck with my dance workout even though my knees are becoming sore but I made sure not to overdo it. I had to compromise on my walk today and instead of walking up our big hill I decided to walk 4ks around a local park. I ended up meeting all my activity goals on my Apple Watch & I ate relatively healthy and in moderation. I’ve made the choice not to cut out certain foods & have tried my best to substitute for healthier/low calorie foods. I’ve also started trying to weigh and count calories as it’s something I’ve struggled with and it wasn’t as hard as I made out before, so I’m very happy with that. My motivation so far is to improve how I feel, to really boost my self esteem. I also want to feel good and look good on the outside as I’ve barely looked at myself in the mirror for the last 8 months. I also do it for my son, who needs his Mum My main point is I am doing it for me and not for my abusive ex husband. So hopefully this will last longer than last years blow out and I actually achieve my goals and maintain a healthy weight appropriately.

Katyonthehamsterwheel Challenging the V Day feels...
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Today has me feeling a bit ick, and maybe others do too. So I thought maybe we could share something that we love or feel passionate about For me, it's the beach. I bloody love it! I like to draw in the sand and watch it get washed away, like a clean... View more

Today has me feeling a bit ick, and maybe others do too. So I thought maybe we could share something that we love or feel passionate about For me, it's the beach. I bloody love it! I like to draw in the sand and watch it get washed away, like a clean slate. I like to drown my thoughts out below the surface. I love the water when it's angry and crashing like thunder. I love it when it's clear and still and aquamarine. And I even adore the hot sand, when you have to dance over it trying not to burn your feet, but you're laughing at yourself all the while.

Guest_342 Blinking
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Hello, Does anyone else have issues with excessive and awkward blinking/winking and/or compulsively popping your ears? I find I do it more in stressful situations - e.g. when concentrating on busy traffic or when talking face to face with someone who... View more

Hello, Does anyone else have issues with excessive and awkward blinking/winking and/or compulsively popping your ears? I find I do it more in stressful situations - e.g. when concentrating on busy traffic or when talking face to face with someone who will notice me doing it. occasionally I do other things like clenching my teeth or clashing my front teeth together. If I don't do it, it feels uncomfortable. What has worked for you to reduce or stop it?

contrarymary Sleep and anxiety seem to go hand in hand
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I have difficulty getting of to sleep I usually end up watching a TV program on my tablet and fall asleep half way through I then wake up and can't get back to sleep and then I start getting anxious as I am awake and the rest of the house is asleep. ... View more

I have difficulty getting of to sleep I usually end up watching a TV program on my tablet and fall asleep half way through I then wake up and can't get back to sleep and then I start getting anxious as I am awake and the rest of the house is asleep. I get even more anxious if I look at the clock (I try not too) if it says something like 3am and I an awake so I lie in bed imagining all these things that might be wrong with me as I am awake. I have tried going to bed later and doing some puzzles or reading I might then drop off for an hour or so then wide awake I sometimes get up and make a cup of tea at 3am. I do not sleep during the day and do not feel tired during the day, perhaps I am one of these people who don't need a lot of sleep. Anyone got any ideas on how to get to sleep naturally the worst is waking up in middle of night and lying awake I often read a book and then must drop off again as book is on floor when I wake. If I go to bed at 9 I will be awake at 1am, if I go to bed at 10 I will be awake at 2am, if I say awake till midnight I will be awake at 4am then it's at least an hour before I get back to sleep I would just like to go to bed at say 10pm and sleep till alarm goes off at 7am, anyone else have my problem

BB563780 A Five-Year-Old Girl
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In 2018, I was extremely upset while walking home from school. I was heart broken by a group of best friends who left me and I was unsure of how to cope with life. I lost track of the time because every day seemed the same, I had severe irritibality ... View more

In 2018, I was extremely upset while walking home from school. I was heart broken by a group of best friends who left me and I was unsure of how to cope with life. I lost track of the time because every day seemed the same, I had severe irritibality issues, I had not showered nor brushed my teeth in a week, my hair was very untidy, there were deep purple bags visible under my eyes, and there were wrinkles and self-harm marks visible. I was walking with my head down and considering suicide that day due to breaking down in tears in a class, almost destroying school property and causing a fight, and a mother and father who berated me. A trailer almost ran me over, however I did not have a single thought nor care towards it. A five-year-old girl from a nearby primary school skips towards me and says with glee on her face while pointing to my school: "Do you go to this school?" I replied in a monotone, low, and quiet voice that was followed by a sigh of disappointment: "Yes." The girl replied cheerfully: "Okay. Bye now." While she skipped away, my head turned upright and I smiled. I hope that she knows that my friendship with the same group of best friends who left me has been reinstated since, and I am continuing to live and thriving years later.

Guest_4502 Psychiatrist won't treat me
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Hi everyone I recently admitted voluntarily. I saw a new doctor who dropped a bombshell - your diagnosis is wrong, we've ruined the last 10 years of your life and you were never really that sick, its just a minor condition we missed and all the stuff... View more

Hi everyone I recently admitted voluntarily. I saw a new doctor who dropped a bombshell - your diagnosis is wrong, we've ruined the last 10 years of your life and you were never really that sick, its just a minor condition we missed and all the stuff we've filled you with is why you've been a basket case. A number of issues happened during the four days I was admitted, so I eventually told a nurse it wasn't helping and there was no point me staying. Apparently being a voluntary patient means nothing. 12 hours later I was woken up with police at my door and detained for 12 hours for an involuntary assessment. I'm not sure thats legal but anyway it happened. I got over it, followed through with gp and psychology appts. Today I received a letter about the follow-up id booked with the psychiatrist. Not treating you due to your breach of trust, go see your gp and find someone else. Wow.

Sian_J 🎶Music 🎶
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What music / artist / song do you relate to, or find helps you through? (A rough patch) And why? Can be be more than song, or more than one artist. THEN: What music makes you feel good, helps you feel better, makes you feel good about yourself? What ... View more

What music / artist / song do you relate to, or find helps you through? (A rough patch) And why? Can be be more than song, or more than one artist. THEN: What music makes you feel good, helps you feel better, makes you feel good about yourself? What music / song / artist/ band can you connect to on a more personal side? I want to know if music helps anyone else, as much as it has, and continues to still be helping me in my journey. MUSIC IS THE ONLY REASON I’M STILL ALIVE

Wilebeast Need help staying clean
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61 days clean... it’s been a rough few days for me, all I can think about is getting a fix. sometimes it consumes my head 24/7, so hard

61 days clean... it’s been a rough few days for me, all I can think about is getting a fix. sometimes it consumes my head 24/7, so hard

white knight Acceptance- is this our biggest challenge?
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Acceptance is in the mix, in terms of the process we have to face where it comes to our demons. Like all the other factors in our quirky lives with mental illness challenges, we often have more intense fights to endure. We have to accept we have a me... View more

Acceptance is in the mix, in terms of the process we have to face where it comes to our demons. Like all the other factors in our quirky lives with mental illness challenges, we often have more intense fights to endure. We have to accept we have a mental illness- no mean feat before we can feel relaxed in our own skin. We have to accept being “different”, not normal and we have to accept others wont/don’t/cant understand. We have to accept the download of all this and the discrimination from nasty people. Then there’s the challenge of accepting ourselves. To top all this off we have the the computer. This machine has made incredible advances in communication, knowledge sharing and we as a result are far more aware and educated. But there is a downside….misunderstanding. In respect to forums we shed our outer skin, expose our deepest thoughts and in many cases display information about our inner thoughts we would not normal reveal. This can have ramifications. I’d argue that we with emotional needs far greater than normal and sensitivity at peak levels, that we are prone to fall into traps on the internet more often. Facebook is a good example. I covered this in an article (google) “topic: is social media good for you?- beyondblue”. Bullying from some quite nasty people had occurred with me over a 5 year period by one low life person that surprisingly was a popular fellow with others…for a time. Until people realised his inner persona wasn’t all that nice as his exterior appeared. By the time harm was done, the personal messages of “take more medication and go back to your doctor buddy” cut deep and there was no way I could just “laugh it off”. Internet disputes place us in a situation whereby you feel you cannot avoid them. We humans cannot agree about everything. But the worst thing about internet communication is, we don’t see the smile when the other posts, we don’t read the words how they were intended to be received and we certainly don’t have a vision of the good nature of the person…that often is clouded. We need to always try to move forward because the bigger picture of life itself is important. It isn’t an easy task because we are still chewing at the bit about our side of a story…so we have to be brave if we are going to use computers as our tool to talk, find common ground and swallow our pride. Acceptance, our greatest challenge? I think so. To accept ourselves and focus on the bigger picture. What do you think? Tony WK