I want to cut my hair

[Dont_Mind_Me]

Hello everybody! I'm Don't_Mind_Me. They/Them pronouns please 🙂

So basically I'm a born female, but I think I'm gender fluid. But I don't know how to tell my family this, because last time me and my family talked about gender, my mother dismissed gender fluid and non binary people as "confused" and "picky" (regarding pronouns). So, now I'm even more scared to come out. It also doesn't help that I need to also come out to my family as Pansexual!

Another thing on top of that, I'm in love with a lesbian, who I'm not out to and she doesn't like me back. So i know if i tell her that I'm gender fluid, it is not helping my case as to why she should give me a chance.

I want to cut my hair, and where mens clothes, but i can't because I'm not out, and I don't know what to do!

Any help and/or advice on gender identity and coming out would be much appreciated 🙂

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

So proud of individuals like you that struggle to be themselves in a judgemental world.

As a hetro older man I don’t have any experiences that can help. However I can offer an opinion.

I think it will become easier as you get older. People’s opinion won’t matter as much and your sexuality and views will mature whereby you’ll become more of a full person of who you are. During that evolve you’ll one day say to yourself “I’m going to be who I am and I don’t care what others think and... my world only includes those that accept me 100%”

As for your family, we’d all enjoy total acceptance but in reality it rarely is the case. In effect you have two choices- 1/ not to have any expectations of acceptance, keep your distance and live them by doing what they are not doing, accept them for who they are b/ go all out being yourself regardless of their (or anyone else’s) views.

Only you can make that choice.

I have a friend that is very religious and believes if I wasn’t an atheist I’d be cured of my bipolar. I can tolerate him. But I had another friend that never asks how I am nor there if I needed him- I severed the friendship.

We all have choices.

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TonyWK

[Dont_Mind_Me]

Thank you so much for the reply!

I've taken what you've said into great consideration. I do want to come out at some point, but I'll probably wait until I'm older and they will hopefully accept me more easily if they think I'm more mature.

I hope that you're well 🙂

[white knight]

Great decision

good luck

TonyWK