Feeling down during marriage equality debate

[Born2Slavic]

Hi there,

I find it hard to manage my anxiety and depressive feelings during the marriage equality debate. It is hard to stay possitive in a small town with conservative views, and I feel there is very limited support. I just feel like crap, no other word for it. I need to create a support network and connect with people who have similar feelings. Those who can offer any advice are welcome 🙂

[demonblaster]

Hey Born welcome

Yeah frustrates the hell of me when people are narrow minded

What slacks me off no end is the fact that sexual choices is exactly that, a choice, it's about love, look out I"m passionate on this one lol, more so than not it's homophobes and closed minded people that hurt not the other way around or in a lot of cases in defense.

Sooooooooooo if someone's not hurting others and simply attracted to same sex, seriously how hard is it
They just need to get on with their lives and mind their own bloody business sorry no lady here 🙂

I'd like to talk to the idiot that made an invisible rule that people should only love and be attracted to same sex, jeez it whoops me.

Shame you're in a small town, there's probably a lot more than you know that quietly have same preferences, many because of this irrational thinking stay in the closet

One of the things I like about now is that issues are becoming more open and talked about as they should be, people need to know all issues people have to understand with luck and support

Born, the dust will settle and if not now a YES, it'll happen later, I fear it may not because of so many religious followers with many churchies against but here's hoping

later

[blondguy]

Hello Born2Slavic

Welcome to the forums and good on you for having the courage to post too!

If I can say that the Beyond Blue forum family are not judgemental in any way and your thread topic holds the same weight as mine or anyone else's here. Your input is highly valued and important to us.

If I may offer you all the support that is lacking in your conservative town in which you live. Im very sorry that you feel like crap. Your thoughts/opinions/feelings are very important here. The forums have a rock solid support network for people that are pro same sex marriage.

I hope this link from Beyond Blue may be of some support. There are many super gentle people on the forums that can be here for you. You are more than welcome to post back as many times as you wish

www.beyondblue.org.au/who-does-it-affect/lesbian-gay-bi-trans-and-intersex-lgbti-people

Thankyou for being a part of the forum family B2S

My kind thoughts for you....and have a good weekend too!

Paul

[Just Sara]

Hey Born2 and welcome to our caring community;

I hear you!! Been hit by the SSM demon with a sledge hammer recently. If you want to have a look-see at what I've been dealing with, please visit my thread.

Section...Long Term Support Over the Journey - Thread...Getting to know you...or is that me? It's a really long (old) thread, but if you read back about 8 or so posts from today, you'll get the idea.

I hope things improve for you once this stupid vote has been done with. BB's my place of comfort and safety; I hope it becomes a similar place for you.

Take care and warm thoughts;

Sez

[justinok]

Hi Born2Slavic, I'm not in a small town but I am struggling with this whole thing too. I'm a gay HIV positive man no longer in contact with my family, and believe I should have the right to choose legally who my family is. Hope you'll post back.

[MsPurple]

HI Born2Slavic and welcome to the BB forums

Like everyone here I can't wait for the votes to be over and for us all to move on. I feel like these votes are stressing everyone out.

Like you I grew up in a small town. I was sexually confused at 16 (before then, no interest in anyone but I was late romantic bloomer). I then got a bf and thought I was straight. We broke up and I didn't get in another relationship. I then questioned my sexuality again as 23 and finally talked to someone about it. I was in the city by 23 and felt more open to talk to a therapist about it. I discussed my fears associated with being bisexual and fears about my home town and friends finding out. Yes not everyone knows there as I haven't moved back home (no work in my field there) but I tell people as I see fit. I was worried thinking the whole world was closed minded. But they are not. More people from my hometown are being open with their true self. Tom Ballard (commedian) is from the country and he wrote an article to his home town regarding being a gay growing up in the country. It was a good read I suggest looking it up.

I just want to offer you support and that here on the BB forums it is a safe place (especially now with the sexuality and gender identity threads are now back).

If you have any questions or want to vent further we are here for you and everyone in this time

MP

[cleews]

Hi Born2,

I hope you are well. Welcome to the forums and I hope that we can give you a bit of support and to help you through these trying times. We are here to chat if you feel like it. I just hope that you feel safe enough and are safe when you experience those troubling periods.

The war of advertisement that is going on now is particularly difficult to some of us, mainly because I feel it is two camps fighting from the trenches and the majority of the moderates are being caught in a screaming contest of whose message is the loudest. It becomes very disconcerting when all you hear is the awful things people say and all the screaming of labels. Because it is in a way, a very viral fab/behaviour wave, everyone gets up on it and may express things that they normally will not. I feel that this has turned into a Us vs Them thing. It's almost like two hated rival footy/soccer teams that are trying to beat each other. But when you look deeper, they are just people caught up in that Us vs Them mentality, created purely from nothing. Much like the soccer fever or the footy fever.

As you said you are from a small town, it is likely you have seen some people that you know and have wonderful experiences and memories with express things that are very hurtful to you. I'm not trying to give them an excuse for that, but perhaps remembering who they are as a person, with your intimate knowledge, might help ease the apprehension you may have.

That's my 2 cents and I hope you are well.

Chris