They Don't Know (Or Care) If We Exist

[Toymanpete]

Hello. I'm writing this today out of sheer exhaustion & exasperation. I'm a live-in carer to my 81-year-old mother who has osteoporosis & fatigue issues. This isn't the reason I'm writing, but because I get 0% support from my family. There were 3 kids in the family- My eldest sister lives in self-imposed exile because she was an alcoholic who caused too much trouble. Closer to home is my other sister. She is a toxic former heroin addict with some sort of mental health issue that causes her to act like the world's oldest moody teenager. She served time in a girl's home & seems to think she's still back there. On the rare occasions she does visit us, she never has a good thing to say about anything or anyone & being around her endangers mine and Mum's mental health. She never offers to help, never asks how we are, just flops down & starts whinging. She had 10 kids, all grown up now, but I don't think they even care if we exist- since they all grew up, they've had nothing to do with us, let alone offer to help. The boys all moved to other states & the 2 eldest girls married into money and are now very snobbish. One of the girls had a baby last year & she and my sister seem intent on replacing us in the family with this infant, who they are both obsessed with. It's a non-rejection of sorts- we never get invited to Xmas day, or any family gatherings, they just sort of disappeared. I'd love to 'Blow the Whistle' on them to somebody, for their unwillingness to help out, but I don't know who to go to. Maybe somebody here can help. Thanks for listening & God Bless you all.

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Toymanpete

you are doing very tiring and rewarding job but it seem you are unappreciated,often one child ends up caring for a parent,.

your sisters sound like they have many health issues. 

I can understand  that you feel frustrated alone .

i know from experience  how hard it is to get some propel to help family members.

Have you approached the carers association and have you organised respite.

Thank for sharing your thoughts here. You are doing a worthwhile job.