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Support for partner of someone with chronic pain

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I'm hoping someone can offer assistance. My partner (currently ex, but still living under the same roof) has had injuries and been on work cover for 4.5 years. I have done my best to support them the best I knew how to and we are at a point where I am being blamed for their problems and the state of their mental health. I want them to move out, but it is not happening so I am living in this state of toxicity and aggression 24/7 as they are always home, and I work from home. Looking for some coping strategies / ideas?!

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Hi there, 

Thank you so much for sharing this here. We’re so sorry to hear about the situation with your ex-partner, we understand how difficult it must be to live together under these circumstances. We can hear you’ve been a really caring partner and your concerns come from such a loving and supportive place, but it’s also important to protect your own wellbeing. Reaching out here is a great step.

I’m sure we’ll hear from our amazing community soon, but in the meantime, we wanted to share a couple of pages with you in case they interest you: 
We know it's a difficult situation but we hope you can maintain your own boundaries, and your own wellbeing. If you’d like any more ideas or information on this, feel free to have a look at our pages on looking after yourself while supporting someone.  

The Beyond Blue counsellors are here for you if you’d like to talk this through on 1300 22 4636, or via online chat. It is so important that you look after yourself during these times and they can help you, or just be there if you want to talk. 

Another option is to reach out to our friends at Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277 or the lovely people at 1800Respect to discuss how your partner has been treating you. You deserve to always be treated with respect.

Thanks again for sharing here. We really appreciate your kindness and openness in sharing and offering your support here on the forums, so we hope you can be kind to yourself also through this time. 

Kind regards,  

Sophie M