Son & his family want to stay with us until he finds another house. Worried about how to deal with this given our situation.
As discussed on other threads I have been struggling with anxiety, depression & exhaustion while caring for my husband who is blind & has a chronic illness which has led to frequent episodes of illness. In desperation I rang for help last week & arranged for a carer to assist so I could go away for a couple of days on a family camp over Easter. Unfortunately I developed a stomach bug so haven't been well since coming home on Sunday so fatigue is still a major problem. My husband has gone away for 5 nights with MDA & I promised I would try to rest & recover while he is away.
Today my son rang to say they had to move out of their house on Friday & have nowhere to live so can they stay with us. We downsized a few years ago due to my husband's condition so there is little room for 2 adults & a 2yr old & 11mth old. I feel like I'm in a no win situation. If I say no they have nowhere to live so I'm a terrible parent. My son also has a history of depression & has only recently started work again after a long period of being too unwell to work & being suicidal. If I agree to have them I can't rely on them to stick to any agreements. DIL is good at promising but never follows through. I find her very stressful. She yells at her son frequently which I find upsetting. They are both very messy & I would find it hard to prepare meals due to her mess. Having them here will also make it impossible to keep the house in a suitable state to ensure my husband's safety given his blindness. Tiredness tends to lead to my husband becoming ill putting extra pressure on me. I don't know what to do.
I have just stopped for a late lunch. My DIL picked up the rest of their stuff, paid the board I asked for & returned the key. I have cleaned most of my house just have the kitchen, laundry & study to finish & the backyard. I started with my bedroom as it was the easiest so it gave me the motivation to keep going. I spent much longer than needed on my bedroom & living areas because I wanted them to feel really fresh & clean like a fresh start. (They didn't use my bedroom or ensuite it was just me wanting everything extra clean.)
We are going away next week for a few days now we can leave the house without worrying about the consequences. It is nice to have my life back.