Dear Hurting~
I think you are asking the wrong question, it is not likely you broke him or caused him to overuse alcohol, be violent and smash things and put holes in walls - plus disappear and also be mean. He was the one that did those thing, and it would have come from inside him.
For you to go crook at him and call him names when he is in such a state is quite natural, I'd do the same myself. After all you are only responding to his unacceptable behaviour, not bringing it about. It is all very well to say he could be good company and never touched you, that is how it should be anyway, it's not an excuse for running amok.
Looking to yourself and acknowledging you have faults can be a healthy thing to do, but it does not mean you are responsible for his actions. He also does not seem to have deeply valued your relationship if he is in another so quickly.
With a new partner there is often a 'honeymoon period' and that may be happening at the moment. How happy they are in the future is another matter.
I hope you find someone better, you deserve it. In the meantime do you have anyone to give you support, a family member or friend perhaps? Talking though how you fell with someone that cares can make quite a difference
Croix
