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Sister takes lots of photos

shorti
Community Member

Hey all,

 

My sister is named the paparazzi by her friends. She will take photos of people without them knowing at parties and stuff to get "in the moment shots"

 

My husband and I recently had a baby. My husband does not like lots of photos of the same thing. My sister is a happy snapper and just keeps clicking the button on her phone and takes about 10 photos of the baby in the same position. I don't have an issue with this, but my husband does. He thinks it's rude and people should ask us if they want to take a photo of the baby.

 

My sister is family and not just anyone. My husband now wants me to talk to my sister, but it's making me feel uncomfortable. 

I wrote another post recently about my husband not wanting me to go to my dad's with the baby, unless my husband is with me, because he doesn't get along with my dad.

I'm starting to feel uncomfortable around my own family. 

I don't want to talk to my sister about the photos because I don't have an issue with it, and my family will know it's not coming from me. They will think my husband is controlling. This then makes me feel more uncomfortable.

 

Anyone here who has kids, do you have issues with your family (parents, siblings) taking photos of your baby, and is there a limit to how many they are allowed to take? Do they need to ask you first?

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Sophie_M
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Dear shorti

Thank you for showing such courage in posting and sharing your experience. 

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We’re sure to hear from some of our lovely community members here on your thread soon.  Thanks again for sharing. It’s a powerful and brave first step towards feeling better.

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Sophie M

BrightStar1
Community Member

I think taking photos is a beautiful way of memory keeping for the future. Maybe you can ask your husband to talk to your sister about why she takes so many photographs. It could be as simple as its a new camera/ phone etc and they are just getting used to it, or if when in the moment someones expression can change so quickly. Its hard to capture that moment sometimes in just one click. Hearing her point of view might make things easier

Could it be posed to your husband that your sister might be planning on making your a gift soon or in the future with the baby photos?

Is she just excited to be an Aunty?

Is your husband uncomfortable if the photos are shared online?

Petal22
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi shorti,

 

Im sorry that your husband is going through this and yourself observing it.

 

I do remember your other post.

 

When I was going through postnatal anxiety I also would find some things anxiety provoking for me that others would do with my baby.

Simple things like always holding the baby I felt people where always taking my baby off me.

 

Now that I have recovered from this condition I wouldn’t find the things that once bothered me to bother me now.

 

I believe it was the nature of the postnatal anxiety.

 

Men can also get this condition.

 

Where you able to discuss this with your husband?

 

He could have a chat to his gp if he wanted to.

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello shorti, if your sister is named the paparazzi, then naturally all she will want to do is take photos, may be for for her collection in a competition and could be for work, however there seem to be 2 problems here, which may be applicable or not.

As your sister is a photographer, then it's always lovely to have photos of your baby, especially as they become bigger and when you look back, it creates a bit of humour, although embarrassing for your baby as they age.

There is a reason why he doesn't want you to go to your dad's place unless he is with you, and perhaps this is why he doesn't want photos to be taken and you could ask your sister to share these photos if she is after some photography work and/or give you copies of these photos, so you can decide who you want to give them to, but I do know of people who are very protective of anybody taking photos.

Your sister needs to do what you want her to do and if she wants to use them as a display for future work, she still needs your approval.

Geoff.

Life Member.

livi_mivi
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hey Shorti, 

 

Firstly, congratulations on the birth of your baby! I am sorry to hear that you have been put in an awkward situation, i'm sure it would be very hard to know the right way to react to this. I personally don't have a baby but I have a niece so I can definitely understand the excitement that your sister is feeling in wanting to capture your baby's every move. I think this decision very much depends on how comfortable you are your partner are with people taking photos of your baby. I know of people that don't like others sharing photos of their baby on social media and I know others that don't have a problem with it so it's all about preference. Does your husband feel this way towards anyone else taking photos of your child or is it mainly towards your sister? Do you think that he could respectfully communicate this with her and understand her perspective? Do you think that she would understand where he is coming from too? 

 

I wish you all the best and hope you can reach a resolution that makes you all feel comfortable. 😁

 

I understand