Sex with strangers
Hello IBambi, wanting to have sex with a stranger eliminates any reason why you should or shouldn't have it with a partner/spouse, usually there are no questions asked or discussed and for a female to be in this position means that a lot of single men/women would probably say yes, however, when you look back at this years to come, you would wonder why you ever did this, especially when you already have a young child.
Have you thought about other ways to satisfy your sexual needs because you can never be sure what a stranger may do as you have asked them, so your safety is of prime concern.
You must also consider that if you do find someone, then the possibility of them wanting to start a relationship with you may occur.
All of this becomes very complicated and may turn out to be messy.
First of all, there is no judgemeny here whatsoever. Who you choose to have sex with, is completely your choice.
I guess my concern is that you don't know why you are doing it. My suggestion would be to go back to your psychologist and flesh this out a bit more as you have expressed concerns about why this escalating.
Being as you are one on one with these people, not knowing much about them, it could lead to a physically unsafe situation. You need to consider more than just your sexual health.
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As I was reading your post ,the thought of you possibly being addicted came to me.
It may sound weird but if you think about addiction to things such as gambling, alcohol, drugs, excessive shopping, internet gaming and food. Well some of us get a high from these. I do with food and shopping. The release of dopamine in the brain from doing these things that bring some kind of happy, excitement, nice feelings or as a way to escape from unpleasant things and emotions in our lives.
If you want to look further look up Dr Doug Lisle he works as a psychologist in US. He has written a book called the Pleasure Trap which talks more about addictions including sex type ones. You can find him on ytube as well, including TED talks.
Maybe this would help you .
I think like every thing else in life, moderation is better.
Perhaps you need to cultivate other interesting activities to give you more balance to your life.
Perhaps when you find someone you really like, you could then have a regular partner without too much commitment.
Hi Geoff. Sorry I never seen this reply. Yes this did happen and although I did say to this person I didn't want a relationship and that person agreed with me but they kinda fell for me and I stopped seeing them and they haven't been able to accept it's over. I have found someone I like but typical, he belongs to someone else lol