Dear Ifallintofantasy~
Thanks for coming back to me. I have the feeling that this is very hard for you to talk like this.
I also have the feeling we both think families should be part of our lives.
If you were to stand back and try to make an unbiased judgment of your dad and his new partner would you say they were bad people? Do you think they made any effort to include you?
Yes, I know only too well how hard it can be to make a fair judgment when angry or hurt - or even feeling a bit guilty.
If you thought they were people you wanted to get on with I'd try to mend fences.
Whichever one seemed the most likely to listen for a start. It can be amazing what people can forgive - especially if they have a clear understanding of matters.
I know for myself there are two sides to being quick to anger. One side is the rage, the other is eating humble pie afterwards when I've jumped in error, or gone too far.
If you wanted try a peace-pipe. Perhaps it might be best written down so you can think it out without pressure.
If it was me and I'd treated someone like crap I'd say so, and ask if I could say sorry. I'd say why I was doing this, that I wanted things to be better.
If I could - it might not be easy -I'd try to say why I treated them that way, what I was feeling at the time.
All this is a guess based on what I think you feel. I may be wrong about that, I don't know.
Please post again and say what you think
Croix
