about my friend.. am also wondering if am being controlled. covertly. He has been
willing to help me buy items that i like, such as putting an xbox on
his credit, which i pay for, i just dont have the credit to
actually get it myself. and a watch, that monitors my health for
seizures and other problems that i suffer from. i feel i am in debted to him, and if i wanted to leave the friendship, i couldnt leave. he knows full well i am loyal, and
will always pay what i owe, and do the right thing. i feel he is using
this knowledge to his advantage.
He
also gets in "funny" moods, where he acts very distant. especially if
he has recently gone to visit a particular girl, and obviously has not got what
he wanted from her. so he becomes moody, irritable, and closed off. i
thought maybe just a bad day(s). but now i put more thought into it,
carefully, i can see the facts represent themselves. she would have said
no to something or acted out of his control. and he would have become
agitated. he seems very ignorant to mental
health problems people have. he only seems to be in any friendship for
instant fun, and gratification, and for what people have.
i
feel he tries to put me down and control me as well. one example,:he used to let me drive his car, when he was tired. now, i am trying to get my own license, so i can be
independent , and start working towards my own car, he refuses to give
me driving lessons, he knows he is the only one i can
rely on. he knows i can drive. i just
need a refresher course, in a manual. he puts me down saying i CANT
drive, and i am to clumsy. i am really not.
I
feel he does this so i have to depend on him for lifts, and support. i
feel this is not to help me, but to boost his ego.
I
also had a job as cleaner, which he helped me get. when i was working
there, he seemed irritated by my presence, and acted aloof. within 48
hours i was asked not to return to the employment. i was broken hearted.
deep down my soul was telling me, he had been talking behind my
back, and would have said something to the employer which would have
influenced their decision to fire me. because i know, i worked hard, and
put 110% into the job, i was happy, and independent and he did not seem
to like that at all. i get a feeling he would rather see me unhappy.
and when i speak to him about my issues, he acts aloof and ignorant.
especially since he has moved in with a new friend, who has expensive
stuff. would like feedback
